Ryan Holiday

And then actually, before I wrap up, I wanted to bring you a little chapter in Daily Dad that was inspired by Dr. Eger, a little parenting lesson I took from her as well.

Your kid will be whatever you make them.

The Holocaust survivor turns psychologist and author, Dr. Edith Egger, had a son who was born with athetoid cerebral palsy.

One day on a visit to the doctor's office, Dr. Egger expressed some of her fears and worries to the specialist.

And it was there that she got some advice that is worth sharing with every parent, whether your family has ever had to face this kind of adversity or not.

Your son will be whatever you make of him, the doctor explained.

John's going to do everything everyone else does, but it's going to take him longer to get there.

You can push him too hard and that will backfire, but it will also be a mistake not to push him hard enough.

You need to push him to the level of his potential.

Your kids will be whatever you make them.

No one is saying that things won't be hard.

No one is saying that any of this is fair.

Dyslexia or disabilities, being a refugee or losing your job, being a genius or short.

What matters is how we push them and push ourselves.

What matters is the kindness and love and the patience that accompany that pushing.

We can't do everything for them, but we can believe in them and help them believe in themselves.

We can help them reach their level of potential.

We can make them be what they are capable of being.

This is just a woman who I think truly embodies forgiveness, who found strength in suffering.

And like I said, her wisdom changed my life.