Ryan Zofay

That's when I really started to dive into this work and really master human behavior and master psychology so that I could understand my emotions and master my emotions.

The end product of a thought is a feeling.

The quality of your life is based on the quality of how you feel.

If you're feeling this level of avoidant, if you're feeling like you're not confident, if you're feeling insecure...

how is life like shitty if you're feeling those things right yeah i love that so you feel like you have good emotional mastery right now i do at this point what was that process like to get there because i'm assuming at first you couldn't control your emotions

No, dude, I was out of control.

So anger was my go-to.

It was more anger was rage.

I was an absolute maniac because my dad was abusive and my mom being stabbed by my stepfather.

And then he attempted to take her life and shot her in the neck with a gun.

So like extreme violence was like what I was exposed to.

And when I got sober...

that was like my go-to, that was like my go-to addiction because it allowed me to escape the present moment.

It allowed me to escape what I was feeling, what was coming up.

And then there was a level of control.

So like my deepest fear is you're gonna leave me.

My sister left me.

My mom left me.

My dad left me.

So that was like the model of my world.