Ryan Zofay

It's like everybody's going to leave me.

And so once I realized that if I control the room, once I realized if I can control you with my anger, then I'm in control if you're leaving me or not.

So that was the illusion that I had at that time.

Wow.

So how did you break that?

Because that sounds like a tough one to get out of.

Dude, I'm at probably 10,000 hours of like real deep work, whether I'm teaching people or participating in a seminar.

So I think I've done like over 180 events at this point, participating in teaching.

And what I have found is it's like a practice.

It's just like going to the gym or it's getting on podcasts or getting your reps done.

And the more I would show up to these events, the more I would lean into those discomfortable moments, the easier it got.

And then I would feel some sense of peace.

I would be like, oh, wow, maybe I'm not so bad.

Maybe it isn't as bad as I think it is.

And so just a ton of work, bro, like over 10,000 hours of just diving in and just grinding, grinding.

Good old hard work.

Yeah, people aren't willing to put in those hours into improving themselves.

No, dude.

And I'm so grateful because my success, I believe, is a byproduct of wanting to feel better because I absolutely hated myself.

I hated my life.