Sabrina Zohar

Am I putting way too high of an expectation on a dating app? Is my life revolving around if someone chooses me off this app? It's just another modality of meeting people because here's the other side of the coin. Okay, fine. You want to meet someone in person, right? So are you cool with rejection? Are you cool with someone saying to your face, no, thank you?

Am I putting way too high of an expectation on a dating app? Is my life revolving around if someone chooses me off this app? It's just another modality of meeting people because here's the other side of the coin. Okay, fine. You want to meet someone in person, right? So are you cool with rejection? Are you cool with someone saying to your face, no, thank you?

Am I putting way too high of an expectation on a dating app? Is my life revolving around if someone chooses me off this app? It's just another modality of meeting people because here's the other side of the coin. Okay, fine. You want to meet someone in person, right? So are you cool with rejection? Are you cool with someone saying to your face, no, thank you?

I've dated guys that are 5'8", and they're fantastic. There were other reasons it didn't work out. And so I think when it comes to apps, it's natural that it's going to be. The average person makes their decision within four seconds of an app. You have all but seconds to decide if you want to see somebody. But I'd argue to say similar in person, right? I've dated in New York where I'd go to a bar.

Are you cool with a girl saying, I have a boyfriend and walking off? Are you going to go up and talk to people? And if your answer is no, well, then the apps are there to help you. So that's why I think there is a positive and negative with every regard. I see it as you need to be a better buyer. I'm not going to blame the apps because they're shitty people.

Are you cool with a girl saying, I have a boyfriend and walking off? Are you going to go up and talk to people? And if your answer is no, well, then the apps are there to help you. So that's why I think there is a positive and negative with every regard. I see it as you need to be a better buyer. I'm not going to blame the apps because they're shitty people.

Are you cool with a girl saying, I have a boyfriend and walking off? Are you going to go up and talk to people? And if your answer is no, well, then the apps are there to help you. So that's why I think there is a positive and negative with every regard. I see it as you need to be a better buyer. I'm not going to blame the apps because they're shitty people.

Are you cool with a girl saying, I have a boyfriend and walking off? Are you going to go up and talk to people? And if your answer is no, well, then the apps are there to help you. So that's why I think there is a positive and negative with every regard. I see it as you need to be a better buyer. I'm not going to blame the apps because they're shitty people.

Are you cool with a girl saying, I have a boyfriend and walking off? Are you going to go up and talk to people? And if your answer is no, well, then the apps are there to help you. So that's why I think there is a positive and negative with every regard. I see it as you need to be a better buyer. I'm not going to blame the apps because they're shitty people.

If I look and go, oh, I'm not attracted, I walk off. If this guy tries to talk to me, no, thank you. I don't want it. So I think there is an element of reality that, yes, of course, are there vibe checks? Like my partner's not my type. Not that he's not attractive. He's just not the same guy I always went for. That's why I chose him because I said, oh, what am I saying no to?

That's not the app's fault that I went on a date with someone. That's not great because I didn't vet this person enough. So we can only blame the apps. Of course, listen, are they there to make money? The casino always wins, but that's also me. I do have agency and control on how I interact with this piece of technology.

That's not the app's fault that I went on a date with someone. That's not great because I didn't vet this person enough. So we can only blame the apps. Of course, listen, are they there to make money? The casino always wins, but that's also me. I do have agency and control on how I interact with this piece of technology.

That's not the app's fault that I went on a date with someone. That's not great because I didn't vet this person enough. So we can only blame the apps. Of course, listen, are they there to make money? The casino always wins, but that's also me. I do have agency and control on how I interact with this piece of technology.

That's not the app's fault that I went on a date with someone. That's not great because I didn't vet this person enough. So we can only blame the apps. Of course, listen, are they there to make money? The casino always wins, but that's also me. I do have agency and control on how I interact with this piece of technology.

That's not the app's fault that I went on a date with someone. That's not great because I didn't vet this person enough. So we can only blame the apps. Of course, listen, are they there to make money? The casino always wins, but that's also me. I do have agency and control on how I interact with this piece of technology.

I said, oh, just because he's not my type, that's not enough of a reason for me to say no to this person. So I matched with him. And like, here's the thing. If you're unsure, do a FaceTime vibe check, right? If you're like, oh, he's a little short, but maybe he has a great personality, I'll do a FaceTime with him before I go out with him.

You can bucketize people into, I'll do FaceTimes with these people, but I'll go out with these people. What we want to look at is, am I saying no to people because I'm being rigid or am I saying no to people because they genuinely don't align with what it is that I feel like I want or need?

What I would say is we would also start with a little bit of compassion of there's nothing wrong with me that I like these tall men, but I would be curious then to ask you, what does their height represent to you? Is it that you feel safe and secure with somebody? This is creepy, but is your dad tall? Like my dad's 6'3", so I always thought that a bigger man was something I felt more attracted to.

Okay, I'm 5'8", so I'm a heightist. I'm the same. My partner's 6'5". So to me, I'm like, I think we're allowed to have some aspects of, like my partner, he says, he's like, I can't date a girl shorter than 5'8", because he's like, and then it feels very uncomfortable. My back hurts. I feel like it's my child. I don't really like that. So I think there is a level of like an 80-20 rule.

Okay, I'm 5'8", so I'm a heightist. I'm the same. My partner's 6'5". So to me, I'm like, I think we're allowed to have some aspects of, like my partner, he says, he's like, I can't date a girl shorter than 5'8", because he's like, and then it feels very uncomfortable. My back hurts. I feel like it's my child. I don't really like that. So I think there is a level of like an 80-20 rule.