Sabrina Zohar

And so when I met my partner, and I would say this means a lot to me, when he dismissed it, that was triggering for me.

And to your point, how was he going to know?

I don't expect him to read my mind.

I don't need him to just anticipate my needs.

There's no one on the planet that's going to do that, not even yourself.

But when I communicated that, and then we talked about it, now every year he makes sure it's special for me.

even though he doesn't care about it.

But that's part of that is that I can meet and you can meet and we go and we talk and we converse and we share.

But what's the real root of that is being vulnerable.

And people are scared to be vulnerable because if I'm vulnerable with you, you could reject me.

And if you reject me, that's the same wound I'm running away from.

But that's the key to a beautiful and healthy relationship is you have to have the vulnerability to be able to say, well, this means something to me.

And can I tell you why?

Because how would he know if I didn't share the story of my mom, why this means so much to me?

Or to your point, if you didn't tell Radia about your mom, she would have no idea and just think, why is he being so dramatic?

But it's a beautiful way to let someone into your life.

And that's emotional availability is when somebody wants you to understand where they're coming from.

That's them trying to welcome you in their life.

boundaries and communication don't keep them out they're actually trying to keep you in their life and we have to be able to read that and understand other people's lived experience i'm so i'm so thankful that you've done so much work because i'm just listening to you going wow like there's

I would imagine you would not be this far in your marriage if that didn't come with tons of conversations, hard conversations.