Sabrina Zohar

And not everybody, I'm so tired of the saying, we all have our phone in our hands.

It takes 10 seconds.

First of all, it's never just one text.

Second of all, that requires bandwidth.

I could be on social media scrolling and watching dog videos, which I love to do, all day.

And I have 25 text messages.

I don't have the bandwidth.

I will deal with you later.

That doesn't mean that I'm not interested in you.

That doesn't mean I don't like you.

But what happens is we go into black and white thinking.

If they do this, it's good.

If they do this, it's bad.

And what we're trying to do is understand the gray.

I think if you're getting anxious because somebody hasn't texted you back, we need to look at the state and the story that you're in as opposed to that they're the problem.

Because how else are they showing up?

that might be a sign that you're not giving them space to step in.

I've seen that often.

Now, if you give the space and you don't hear from this person, you have your answer right there.

You were carrying this along.