Sadia Khan

So they build up.

So even if they have a conflict with a friend, they'll say, oh, she must have been liking pictures and she was doing this.

They collect all this data, make a narrative, but none of it has been fact-checked because they don't have the conversation with the person.

So they have that fear of truth, the fear of conflict, and they have an intense fear of rejection.

They're so scared of being rejected that they tiptoe around the person and please them as much as possible.

Whereas if you're not a people pleaser, someone says to you, do you want to go for sushi?

You might not like sushi.

You'll say, no, I don't like sushi.

Let's just go somewhere else.

And a people pleaser will think, oh, yeah, yeah, okay, no problem.

Because in their mind, they think if they give an alternative perspective, that person's going to reject them.

So you just have to tiptoe around them as much as possible.

And they're so scared of that rejection that they actually feel super lonely.

Even though people pleasers, you know, they've done nothing wrong to anybody.

They've never harmed anybody.

They're always the person that people forget about and don't love truly because they don't know them truly.

Yeah.

So many people pleasers are deeply lonely, even though they might be married, they might be with people.

They're so deeply lonely because they don't have conflict and truthful connections with people.

Nobody truly knows what they're really thinking and feeling.