Sadia Khan

So overused.

There's a difference between somebody, because 90% of the time when I have clients that claim that their ex is a narcissist, what really happened is they were forcing someone who didn't love them to love them.

That was all that was really happening.

They're like, he's a narcissist.

I wanted him to do this for me and do this for our birthday.

I wanted him to get married to me.

I wanted to have a baby with him and he just didn't want to do it.

And then, but essentially you are forcing someone who didn't truly love you to try and love you.

And now you're claiming that they have a personality disorder.

When really, if they were doing this all along, it's okay for somebody not to love you.

So it's okay that they don't want to be with you.

It's okay that they might cheat on you even.

You just let them go.

But you holding on to them is what led to this dynamic of one person abusing you when they didn't.

If you just let them go earlier, they wouldn't have that opportunity.

No, not at all, because no one can lead.

They're both submissive.

So men who are people pleasers are always usually with narcissistic women, and women who are people pleasers are with narcissistic men.

But then with each other, they almost get the ick with, oh, they don't have a personality, and they don't know how to lead.

They don't realize what they're describing is their own behaviors that they don't like.