Sadia Khan

I always ask, do you think your ex is a narcissist?

People who always say their ex is a narcissist tend to have narcissistic traits themselves.

So usually if you have been with a narcissist, chances are you'll never think it.

You will think they're the best thing in the world.

You will think they're amazing and so on and so forth because you'll think you were the problem because that's how narcissists work.

They convince you of their own narrative.

But those people who break up with somebody and automatically he's a narcissist, automatically they're a narcissist survivor, automatically they're posting about this.

They are just a victim.

They've got a real victim mentality because

A regular person would think, he screwed me over, he pissed me off, he's terrible.

These things happen.

But somebody who thinks that they're so above the rules think, how can you do this to me?

I'm so wonderful.

How can someone hurt me?

You must have a disorder.

So they spend their life kind of diagnosing other people rather than just realizing we all make mistakes.

Someone's a piece of shit.

I'm a piece of shit sometimes.

We all contribute to the dynamic.

So when people over-identify with their ex being a narcissist, usually they have a victim mindset.