Sally Hepworth

Yeah, I liked the idea of having a partner.

My brothers are twins.

I wonder if that had something to do with it.

Older brothers.

And mum said when we were little, I used to say, where's my other one?

You know, like there was something missing.

And I don't know, like maybe I'm

reading too deeply into it but I loved the idea of having a partner for life I mean come back to it but I have so many partners for life in my girlfriends and that's the sort of full circle that I've come to but I was looking for that and I had an idea of what my life was going to look like and it was going to be a partner it was going to be kids you know maybe some travel career for me career for you know I had those kind of fairly maybe normalish you know traditional ideas and

And I do wonder now if I was really holding on to something idyllic that maybe couldn't match up to what real life looked like.

And when things did...

get tough, which they did, you know, several times through the marriage, as they always do.

I found that really difficult.

I found the, I just didn't understand why it wasn't looking like the picture in my mind of what it should be like.

And disagreements I found really hard.

I wouldn't think, oh, we're disagreeing about this.

I would think,

oh, my God, our relationship, I've married the wrong person, this is terrible.

Right.

I really see that now and I'm in another relationship now and that's something that I've really changed and, you know, I see how communication –

clear communication and not... Also, I think keeping the peace was something that was really important to me in... Because I wanted harmony and happiness.