Sally McMullen

Literally.

And I understand that sometimes it's more of a source of discomfort.

Like we were talking about attachment styles that like saying I love you can be a lot of work for some people as like an internal thing.

And that's okay.

But if a partner has expressed that they, you know, feel this way about it, it's about working towards happiness for both of you and being vulnerable and saying like, you know, like it, it's been, it makes me feel quite vulnerable.

I do feel that way about you, but, you know, saying it is sometimes a bit of a struggle for me.

I don't know.

Um,

But on the flip side as well, I do think you can also have the opposite end where someone's going, I love you, I love you, I love you, and there's zero action behind it.

Love bombing.

Yeah, like love.

Saying I love you is not just something that's said, it's something it's shown.

Yeah.

I don't even know if she really... Has gone into that.

Has gone into that and said he doesn't need to because it's a given, even though I'd say I like to hear it.

But the thing is, I think, and this is just me guessing, that she wants to hear it because she's also not being shown it.

So like the verbal affirmation, the words of affirmation is also not being shown through words.

I don't feel like it's a given.

And it's not even more like even saying I'd like to hear it kind of keeps it as this, like, open thing.

A friend once said a way to kind of tell people what you want from them and when she said that phrase I was like, I'm going to use that.