Sarah Jakes Roberts

He doesn't care about dinner being on the table at 6. He's not nearly as obsessed with cleaning. He wants honesty. He wants communication. He wants loyalty. He wants joy. He wants peace. I would be up making sure the room was clean before we went to bed so that, like, if you wake up, the room is still clean. And he's like, I want you to get in the bed so I can put my head in your lap.

He doesn't care about dinner being on the table at 6. He's not nearly as obsessed with cleaning. He wants honesty. He wants communication. He wants loyalty. He wants joy. He wants peace. I would be up making sure the room was clean before we went to bed so that, like, if you wake up, the room is still clean. And he's like, I want you to get in the bed so I can put my head in your lap.

And even for someone who internalizes for my husband to value communication and honesty, sometimes I'll have like a whole dialogue going in within me and he has no idea what's happening and he wants me to speak up. So I know that part of what it means to be a powerful wife to him is me being able to verbalize what I'm thinking and what's going on in my world.

And even for someone who internalizes for my husband to value communication and honesty, sometimes I'll have like a whole dialogue going in within me and he has no idea what's happening and he wants me to speak up. So I know that part of what it means to be a powerful wife to him is me being able to verbalize what I'm thinking and what's going on in my world.

And so we are so consumed by living up to other people's expectations and other people's definition that we're robbing the people who we are in the closest proximity to of us being powerful in the roles that we play for them. Wow. What is power as a spouse? What is power as an adult child? What's power as a parent specific to the people who you are called to serve?

And so we are so consumed by living up to other people's expectations and other people's definition that we're robbing the people who we are in the closest proximity to of us being powerful in the roles that we play for them. Wow. What is power as a spouse? What is power as an adult child? What's power as a parent specific to the people who you are called to serve?

You're able to incubate what really matters and push away that which would try to make you perform into someone you're not.

You're able to incubate what really matters and push away that which would try to make you perform into someone you're not.

Probably fear of control.

Probably fear of control.

Yeah, I think so. Fear of not even necessarily controlling another person, but controlling, mitigating opportunities for hurt.

Yeah, I think so. Fear of not even necessarily controlling another person, but controlling, mitigating opportunities for hurt.

Yes, fear of being out of control. So the more that I can control myself or control them, try and control the way that this relationship works, the better off I'll be. So I have a lot of, I feel safe. Yeah, I think, yeah, at the end of the day, I think people are searching for safety and safety and control often feel like they go hand in hand.

Yes, fear of being out of control. So the more that I can control myself or control them, try and control the way that this relationship works, the better off I'll be. So I have a lot of, I feel safe. Yeah, I think, yeah, at the end of the day, I think people are searching for safety and safety and control often feel like they go hand in hand.

No, I don't think so.

No, I don't think so.

If you do not feel safe by yourself and on your own, it's going to be difficult for you to feel safe in the context of a relationship. Because at the end of the day, you have to get to a place of safety for yourself. Emotional safety, spiritual safety, like you have to know where is your home plate.

If you do not feel safe by yourself and on your own, it's going to be difficult for you to feel safe in the context of a relationship. Because at the end of the day, you have to get to a place of safety for yourself. Emotional safety, spiritual safety, like you have to know where is your home plate.

And if you don't know your home plate and you just meet someone while you're out in the field running bases, then nobody knows where home is. So I have to know where my home plate is. What makes me feel safe is consistency, stability, rest makes me feel like I'm not an out being out on the town kind of person. Like I like to be at home. It makes me feel safe.

And if you don't know your home plate and you just meet someone while you're out in the field running bases, then nobody knows where home is. So I have to know where my home plate is. What makes me feel safe is consistency, stability, rest makes me feel like I'm not an out being out on the town kind of person. Like I like to be at home. It makes me feel safe.