Sarah Jakes Roberts
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803 appearances
3 recordings
3 series
first heard Dec 2024
last heard 12 May
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But I release it anyway. And I believe that if we can all combine in releasing whatever we have anyway, that maybe we can make a difference in one person for one day or for a lifetime. But I think we have to be willing to take ownership because we've got devastation. And then we have people who are apathetic in many ways because they're so overwhelmed in what they can't do to solve what they see.
But if we can engage in what we can control, I believe that we can see a difference. I have to believe that.
I do think that there are some people who are literally called to focus on what's happening outside of maybe their immediate circle of influence. Like that immediate circle of influence may not be their target audience, right? Sure, sure.
It just is. I mean... We all know people who would like give the best advice that they don't take. You know what I mean? It doesn't mean that the advice itself is broken, but it is just really hard to do the heavy lifting for yourself.
Most of the people who are like the strong friend for other people are showing up for them, but they need strength themselves because there is a vulnerability that comes when it's your life on the line, your relationship on the life where the outcomes directly impact you. Yes.
And so it can be very liberating to say, I'm going to tell you what to do and then I will figure out my stuff later or not at all. But I do think that you can only effectively
impart what you know to be true right everything else is guesswork but I can tell you that I found out power moves because I saw power on the platform and I saw power in the car line and I saw power when I was creating a business plan like I know this for myself and when you know something for yourself you're able to have a more convincing argument for other people but it just requires a lot of vulnerability that many people aren't willing to step into wow
Yeah, yeah.
Instead of seeking a sense of belonging, a sense of okayness from other people, maybe I can just embrace myself. If I could find a way to be okay with myself, then I can wrap my arms around who I am. And for me, I had to sit with myself until I no longer cringed. I had to sit with myself until I no longer felt shame.
I had to sit with myself until I could experience compassion where I once felt guilt. From that place of compassion, I learned to love who I am. Yes, this is my story. No, it may not be perfect, but I'm going to stick beside me.
It starts with intention. I sat with myself. I will say those 10 years I was sitting with myself, but I was sitting with myself punishing myself. How could you be so stupid? You made the biggest mistake. No one's ever going to want you. Sometimes we are sitting with ourselves, but how we are sitting with ourselves is why we can't heal. You can't want to heal and punish yourself at the same time.
to repeat the words that other people have spoken over you that were negative, having it replay in your mind over and over again while you sit with yourself will never bring you to a place of healing. Sitting with yourself with the pursuit of compassion
with the pursuit of love and acceptance, that is when we start sitting with ourself and experience some discomfort and some dysregulation because sitting with myself and trying to be compassionate requires me to stretch, to love myself in a way that I don't think is possible. And as long as you don't think it's possible to sit with yourself and love yourself, every facet of who you are
It doesn't matter who you love. It doesn't matter what you achieve. Until you can really sit with yourself, none of those things are going to make you feel better either. But it is the greatest, absolute greatest gift that you can give yourself to allow love to flood the place where you once felt in emptiness.
And we don't do ourselves any favors by committing to punishing ourselves over and over again for what we did, for what we allowed to happen. This is what we say though. We say to ourselves, I'm going to keep this from happening again by constantly living with it right in front of me.
And if I can live with it right in front of me, if I can beat myself up, if I can punish myself, then I will keep this from happening again. I will prepare myself for further rejection from other people if I constantly remember how unworthy I am, how little value I possess. And so in many ways, we think this is me protecting myself by constantly keeping it in front of my face.
But if we're honest, we do long for an existence where we want to believe that I am not just this one moment. But we will never be more than that one moment if we constantly replay that moment in our head. And so to invite into our atmosphere What other moments do I want to have? What other things do I want to define me?
I spent so long not wanting to be defined as a teen mom instead of saying I will be defined as being a teen mom, but also I'm going to be an incredible person, but also I'm going to love myself, but also I'm going to dream and I'm going to be an author and a teen mom. I'm not trying to disconnect from who I was. I'm trying to bring all of who I am into the fullness of where I am.
addition to that, you know what I mean?
All of those things are true. All of these things are true. And I don't want to be all of my achievements. Gosh, can you imagine what that would be? The pressure and the arrogance connected to that? I want to be this beautiful mixture, this beautiful tapestry of a girl on a journey and a woman owning her power. And I can live in all of that. I can do all of that.
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