Sarah Lavis

And then I went to pack my stuff and I was like, yeah, I need to move.

What sort of support did you have?

So I've got a pretty good family.

I think in the beginning, I was just so numb.

Like even in my counseling sessions, I've got like the first year that says I pretty much said nothing for the whole year.

Like, I think I took a really long time to

kind of understand what had happened and, you know, to get out of that numb phase.

Yeah.

And I think my upbringing probably had a bit to do with it too, because like I'm brought up by very strong, successful men, but very loving.

Like I'd never even really seen misogyny.

I'd never seen any violence.

So it was kind of shocking for me because I hadn't grown up in that and I'd grew up on a farm.

So it's not like I see it in the streets, like people who live in the city all the time.

And yeah, so it was really like a hard concept, I think, for my mind to get around.

So at the six year mark, what happened?

Is that when they joined the databases?

Yeah.

I still remember I was at work, I was working in the mines then, and I got a phone call to say we found him.

Yeah, it was shocking because I'd kind of got

Like to that point where I was like, well, it's never going to happen.