Sari Botton

And I guess I didn't believe in my 30s, you know, when the clock was ticking and I didn't yet quite know that I didn't want children...

You know, I didn't, I was worried that there wasn't going to be someone who was going to get me because I was so different in so many ways.

And then I let that guy go.

And not long after, I guess a few years, I met someone who totally gets me, you know, another creative weirdo.

And we are so well suited.

And we've been together now 23 years.

But I didn't know I could have that.

I really didn't know I could have that.

And so I held on to people who didn't get me because I didn't think I was gettable.

You know, that really resonates for me.

When I was working on my book, I thought so much about my two grandmothers who died in their 50s.

And one died at 51, a few years before I was born, and one died at 55 and we were very, very close.

She died when I was almost seven.

And so...

Their short lives have been looming over me my whole life.

And so here I was working on my book at 54, 55.

And then getting to the place where I had outlived them both.

But I didn't know, like, I don't know.

Is that how long women live?

You know, does it skip a generation?