Scott Adams

And just because someone is disagreeing with you does not mean that they're insulting you.

Also, and this is a particularly painful yet useful lesson, someone could be insulting you

and providing criticism slash critique.

That is correct, and they could be doing it at the same time.

There is a fantastic marriage advice book published back in the late 90s, I believe, called Love and Respect, and there's a quote.

This is what I read when I was a kid.

I would read nonfiction books for adults.

being homeschooled at the time.

I was rather odd in that way.

But there was a quote in there that I remember from, that was probably 11 years old or 12 years old at the time, and which I read, and it said, you can be right but wrong at the top of your voice.

And that goes both ways.

First of all, it's fantastic relationship advice that if you want to win, then you...

lose even when you win, but also your critics can be right, but wrong at the top of their voice or let's say all caps.

So that particular reframe reframe is specifically addressing personal attacks, not criticism or,

Not expose, not exposure.

I think there's somebody recently who absolutely botched this reframe in public and it made the bad situation worse.

So given that she's already put herself out in the discourse, I'm going to leverage her example as an example.

And that would be Jordan Peterson's daughter, Michaela Peterson.

or whatever she goes by now.

And in this particular case, she was attacking incels and grapers and other such terms he was using to describe her critics.