Scott Barry Kaufman

Well, therapy obviously could be very helpful. I'm also a big fan of coaching. And so that's why I've gotten into the coaching space in the past five years, because coaching is very future oriented. And it's not about diagnosing you or trying to find what is the diagnosis. I think sometimes we get hung up too much on what is my diagnosis, you know, or what am I?

And we get so hung up on that, that it's like we're grasping for something to reduce ourselves to, to hang our identity on. And that could get in the way of us seeing our full potential, but seeing the depths of our being as well.

And we get so hung up on that, that it's like we're grasping for something to reduce ourselves to, to hang our identity on. And that could get in the way of us seeing our full potential, but seeing the depths of our being as well.

And we get so hung up on that, that it's like we're grasping for something to reduce ourselves to, to hang our identity on. And that could get in the way of us seeing our full potential, but seeing the depths of our being as well.

Oh, absolutely. So having a victim mindset means you tend to blame all your problems on external circumstances, whether it's that life dealt you a bad hand or that a person or even an entire group of people have it in for you and are holding you back. You believe you don't need to take responsibility for your actions or reactions because of your past trauma.

Oh, absolutely. So having a victim mindset means you tend to blame all your problems on external circumstances, whether it's that life dealt you a bad hand or that a person or even an entire group of people have it in for you and are holding you back. You believe you don't need to take responsibility for your actions or reactions because of your past trauma.

Oh, absolutely. So having a victim mindset means you tend to blame all your problems on external circumstances, whether it's that life dealt you a bad hand or that a person or even an entire group of people have it in for you and are holding you back. You believe you don't need to take responsibility for your actions or reactions because of your past trauma.

So it's perfectly okay to go around being an asshole to people because you can blame that on your own past trauma. You can't stop ruminating about your past victimization. And this probably isn't the most important part of the definition. You may fixate on how to enact revenge and you rarely think about solutions or ways of moving forward with your life with hope and purpose.

So it's perfectly okay to go around being an asshole to people because you can blame that on your own past trauma. You can't stop ruminating about your past victimization. And this probably isn't the most important part of the definition. You may fixate on how to enact revenge and you rarely think about solutions or ways of moving forward with your life with hope and purpose.

So it's perfectly okay to go around being an asshole to people because you can blame that on your own past trauma. You can't stop ruminating about your past victimization. And this probably isn't the most important part of the definition. You may fixate on how to enact revenge and you rarely think about solutions or ways of moving forward with your life with hope and purpose.

That tends to be a real big part of it.

That tends to be a real big part of it.

That tends to be a real big part of it.

Well, you nailed it. And this is what was tricky about the framing of this book and trying to come up with how are we framing this book? Because most of the self-help books that sell really well will tell you it's not you, right? It's either usually the two go-tos we blame are your ex-boyfriend and your mom. Those are the two big ones.

Well, you nailed it. And this is what was tricky about the framing of this book and trying to come up with how are we framing this book? Because most of the self-help books that sell really well will tell you it's not you, right? It's either usually the two go-tos we blame are your ex-boyfriend and your mom. Those are the two big ones.

Well, you nailed it. And this is what was tricky about the framing of this book and trying to come up with how are we framing this book? Because most of the self-help books that sell really well will tell you it's not you, right? It's either usually the two go-tos we blame are your ex-boyfriend and your mom. Those are the two big ones.

And most of the corner of the market and self-help world either blame the mom, the narcissistic borderline mother, or the ex-boyfriend. And so in discussing this with, and then also the Jews, we like blaming the Jews and everything. Well, that's another story. So I was working with my publisher.

And most of the corner of the market and self-help world either blame the mom, the narcissistic borderline mother, or the ex-boyfriend. And so in discussing this with, and then also the Jews, we like blaming the Jews and everything. Well, that's another story. So I was working with my publisher.

And most of the corner of the market and self-help world either blame the mom, the narcissistic borderline mother, or the ex-boyfriend. And so in discussing this with, and then also the Jews, we like blaming the Jews and everything. Well, that's another story. So I was working with my publisher.

First, I wanted to pitch a book on vulnerable narcissism, which is what is the topic I've been scientifically studying for the last 10 years. And they're like, well, people aren't going to admit that they're vulnerable narcissists. So I was like, okay, but this is something that we all, it's a dynamic mindset that we all can go in and out of.