Scott Barry Kaufman

First, I wanted to pitch a book on vulnerable narcissism, which is what is the topic I've been scientifically studying for the last 10 years. And they're like, well, people aren't going to admit that they're vulnerable narcissists. So I was like, okay, but this is something that we all, it's a dynamic mindset that we all can go in and out of.

First, I wanted to pitch a book on vulnerable narcissism, which is what is the topic I've been scientifically studying for the last 10 years. And they're like, well, people aren't going to admit that they're vulnerable narcissists. So I was like, okay, but this is something that we all, it's a dynamic mindset that we all can go in and out of.

And I do think that you lose your agency and you lose your empowerment when you do outsource all your problems to others. When you blame all your problems on someone else, you are stripping yourself of your agency. And so I really wanted people to see that. And I also wanted to come from a clear place of caring and not diagnosis. And I go through great pains. You'll see in the book, right?

And I do think that you lose your agency and you lose your empowerment when you do outsource all your problems to others. When you blame all your problems on someone else, you are stripping yourself of your agency. And so I really wanted people to see that. And I also wanted to come from a clear place of caring and not diagnosis. And I go through great pains. You'll see in the book, right?

And I do think that you lose your agency and you lose your empowerment when you do outsource all your problems to others. When you blame all your problems on someone else, you are stripping yourself of your agency. And so I really wanted people to see that. And I also wanted to come from a clear place of caring and not diagnosis. And I go through great pains. You'll see in the book, right?

Like every sentence, there's a caveat. You know, I'm not here. I'm not in the game of shaming anyone. Not in the game. Usually when you talk about narcissism, when you talk about a victim mindset, it's always like it's the liberals, you know, the libtards or it's always about something else that then people bond together to like. to have the out group be the narcissist.

Like every sentence, there's a caveat. You know, I'm not here. I'm not in the game of shaming anyone. Not in the game. Usually when you talk about narcissism, when you talk about a victim mindset, it's always like it's the liberals, you know, the libtards or it's always about something else that then people bond together to like. to have the out group be the narcissist.

Like every sentence, there's a caveat. You know, I'm not here. I'm not in the game of shaming anyone. Not in the game. Usually when you talk about narcissism, when you talk about a victim mindset, it's always like it's the liberals, you know, the libtards or it's always about something else that then people bond together to like. to have the out group be the narcissist.

And that's not the vibe of my book. I really wanted, I call it honest love. You really validate someone's real felt experience of suffering and you're honest with them that you believe in their higher potential. What I think is missing is that latter part in our society today.

And that's not the vibe of my book. I really wanted, I call it honest love. You really validate someone's real felt experience of suffering and you're honest with them that you believe in their higher potential. What I think is missing is that latter part in our society today.

And that's not the vibe of my book. I really wanted, I call it honest love. You really validate someone's real felt experience of suffering and you're honest with them that you believe in their higher potential. What I think is missing is that latter part in our society today.

Yeah, it's a terrific question. All throughout the course of our day, there's an opportunity to choose a victim mindset or to choose an empowering mindset. If we're waiting at Starbucks, there's a long ass line. It's very easy for us to forget that there are other people in that line as well that are probably also not having a great day.

Yeah, it's a terrific question. All throughout the course of our day, there's an opportunity to choose a victim mindset or to choose an empowering mindset. If we're waiting at Starbucks, there's a long ass line. It's very easy for us to forget that there are other people in that line as well that are probably also not having a great day.

Yeah, it's a terrific question. All throughout the course of our day, there's an opportunity to choose a victim mindset or to choose an empowering mindset. If we're waiting at Starbucks, there's a long ass line. It's very easy for us to forget that there are other people in that line as well that are probably also not having a great day.

But it's very easy to fall prey to the notion, gosh, don't they know how bad my day is? I deserve to be at the front of this line. It's like this certain mentality. that I think we all can kind of fall prey to and we forget that we're not the only ones that are suffering. It happens everywhere.

But it's very easy to fall prey to the notion, gosh, don't they know how bad my day is? I deserve to be at the front of this line. It's like this certain mentality. that I think we all can kind of fall prey to and we forget that we're not the only ones that are suffering. It happens everywhere.

But it's very easy to fall prey to the notion, gosh, don't they know how bad my day is? I deserve to be at the front of this line. It's like this certain mentality. that I think we all can kind of fall prey to and we forget that we're not the only ones that are suffering. It happens everywhere.

A big cognitive distortion associated with a victim mindset is seeing malevolent intent in ambiguous stimuli. Very nerdy. I know you'll be able to parse that, but it's a very nerdy way of saying Let's say you're going down the street. You smile at someone. They don't smile back. And you take it personally. You get mad. You're like, what the fuck? Why did that motherfucker not smile back at me?

A big cognitive distortion associated with a victim mindset is seeing malevolent intent in ambiguous stimuli. Very nerdy. I know you'll be able to parse that, but it's a very nerdy way of saying Let's say you're going down the street. You smile at someone. They don't smile back. And you take it personally. You get mad. You're like, what the fuck? Why did that motherfucker not smile back at me?

A big cognitive distortion associated with a victim mindset is seeing malevolent intent in ambiguous stimuli. Very nerdy. I know you'll be able to parse that, but it's a very nerdy way of saying Let's say you're going down the street. You smile at someone. They don't smile back. And you take it personally. You get mad. You're like, what the fuck? Why did that motherfucker not smile back at me?