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Scott Barry Kaufman

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Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

I went out of my way to smile at them. It's like, okay, chances are they probably didn't even see your smile. They're not thinking about you. They don't care about you. Why should they care? Why should they care about you? They don't, they don't know anything about you. You know, most likely it was just, it was just ambiguous. It wasn't that aggressive. So personalizing everything,

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

I went out of my way to smile at them. It's like, okay, chances are they probably didn't even see your smile. They're not thinking about you. They don't care about you. Why should they care? Why should they care about you? They don't, they don't know anything about you. You know, most likely it was just, it was just ambiguous. It wasn't that aggressive. So personalizing everything,

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

I went out of my way to smile at them. It's like, okay, chances are they probably didn't even see your smile. They're not thinking about you. They don't care about you. Why should they care? Why should they care about you? They don't, they don't know anything about you. You know, most likely it was just, it was just ambiguous. It wasn't that aggressive. So personalizing everything,

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

um seeing malevolent intent in really just neutral stimuli um a really good example of that is is it really that really bothers comedians you know because that's their job but if they're like they see aggression in ambiguous facial expressions when they're performing on stage and that makes them really angry like why are you not laughing loudly at my jokes um

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

um seeing malevolent intent in really just neutral stimuli um a really good example of that is is it really that really bothers comedians you know because that's their job but if they're like they see aggression in ambiguous facial expressions when they're performing on stage and that makes them really angry like why are you not laughing loudly at my jokes um

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

um seeing malevolent intent in really just neutral stimuli um a really good example of that is is it really that really bothers comedians you know because that's their job but if they're like they see aggression in ambiguous facial expressions when they're performing on stage and that makes them really angry like why are you not laughing loudly at my jokes um

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

And they interpret that as, well, the person hates them and hates their jokes. So that's an extreme example. But if we go across our everyday life like that, over-personalizing things, if someone doesn't text you back right away, you fall apart and think, oh, gosh, they hate me. All that stuff is really holding you back.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

And they interpret that as, well, the person hates them and hates their jokes. So that's an extreme example. But if we go across our everyday life like that, over-personalizing things, if someone doesn't text you back right away, you fall apart and think, oh, gosh, they hate me. All that stuff is really holding you back.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

And they interpret that as, well, the person hates them and hates their jokes. So that's an extreme example. But if we go across our everyday life like that, over-personalizing things, if someone doesn't text you back right away, you fall apart and think, oh, gosh, they hate me. All that stuff is really holding you back.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

Well, I think everything honestly comes from a mix of nature and nurture, all of our personality dispositions. It's definitely a personality disposition in the sense that some people we find in our studies over and over, some people score higher than others regularly on it. But I also think it's a dynamic mindset.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

Well, I think everything honestly comes from a mix of nature and nurture, all of our personality dispositions. It's definitely a personality disposition in the sense that some people we find in our studies over and over, some people score higher than others regularly on it. But I also think it's a dynamic mindset.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

Well, I think everything honestly comes from a mix of nature and nurture, all of our personality dispositions. It's definitely a personality disposition in the sense that some people we find in our studies over and over, some people score higher than others regularly on it. But I also think it's a dynamic mindset.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

So they found that a very, a very statistically significant effect that those who were wronged in the study, like they got the short end of the stick in one way, were more likely to give a puff of white noise to annoy a completely innocent. They suddenly became a sadistic society. They suddenly, normal everyday people became a sadistic psychopath.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

So they found that a very, a very statistically significant effect that those who were wronged in the study, like they got the short end of the stick in one way, were more likely to give a puff of white noise to annoy a completely innocent. They suddenly became a sadistic society. They suddenly, normal everyday people became a sadistic psychopath.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

So they found that a very, a very statistically significant effect that those who were wronged in the study, like they got the short end of the stick in one way, were more likely to give a puff of white noise to annoy a completely innocent. They suddenly became a sadistic society. They suddenly, normal everyday people became a sadistic psychopath.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

So I think it is a mindset that we all can be, it can trigger all of us. I really can't stand this constant, you're a psychopath, I'm not. You know, we're living in a society right now where everyone is so quick to call everyone else the narcissist and see themselves as the perfect angels. And I just don't think that's the accurate reality of the matter.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

So I think it is a mindset that we all can be, it can trigger all of us. I really can't stand this constant, you're a psychopath, I'm not. You know, we're living in a society right now where everyone is so quick to call everyone else the narcissist and see themselves as the perfect angels. And I just don't think that's the accurate reality of the matter.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

So I think it is a mindset that we all can be, it can trigger all of us. I really can't stand this constant, you're a psychopath, I'm not. You know, we're living in a society right now where everyone is so quick to call everyone else the narcissist and see themselves as the perfect angels. And I just don't think that's the accurate reality of the matter.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

No, I think we feel justified because the universe to balance things out a little bit to, um, to, uh, it's like a, you know, it's interesting. A lot of people say they're really into justice, but what they're really into is self justice.

Modern Wisdom
#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

No, I think we feel justified because the universe to balance things out a little bit to, um, to, uh, it's like a, you know, it's interesting. A lot of people say they're really into justice, but what they're really into is self justice.