Scott Barry Kaufman

But the word trauma, that really is the narrative that we've cognitively and consciously put on a series of things. And you can see it change too. You can see situations where a person never thought they had trauma and then they go to therapy and then they get convinced by their therapist that that what happened was trauma, so then they changed their whole narrative.

So you can see how fluid our notion of traumatic experiences are. So when I say that trauma has a high heritability, well, it is interesting because there is research showing that people who have a genetic peculiarity towards the personality trait neuroticism do tend to see the world differently than people who are low in neuroticism. They tend to see threat everywhere.

So you can see how fluid our notion of traumatic experiences are. So when I say that trauma has a high heritability, well, it is interesting because there is research showing that people who have a genetic peculiarity towards the personality trait neuroticism do tend to see the world differently than people who are low in neuroticism. They tend to see threat everywhere.

So you can see how fluid our notion of traumatic experiences are. So when I say that trauma has a high heritability, well, it is interesting because there is research showing that people who have a genetic peculiarity towards the personality trait neuroticism do tend to see the world differently than people who are low in neuroticism. They tend to see threat everywhere.

Whereas people who score low in neuroticism don't tend to see the threat everywhere. You could have twins. Well, you could have siblings who are not twins. You could have siblings who don't share a lot of genes, not identical twins. And they both could have experienced the same exact thing in their childhood from their parenting style.

Whereas people who score low in neuroticism don't tend to see the threat everywhere. You could have twins. Well, you could have siblings who are not twins. You could have siblings who don't share a lot of genes, not identical twins. And they both could have experienced the same exact thing in their childhood from their parenting style.

Whereas people who score low in neuroticism don't tend to see the threat everywhere. You could have twins. Well, you could have siblings who are not twins. You could have siblings who don't share a lot of genes, not identical twins. And they both could have experienced the same exact thing in their childhood from their parenting style.

And one is like, I had a traumatizing childhood, and then you see this case. And then the other child is like, what are you talking about? We had such a great childhood. And it's like, well, what's the truth? In a lot of ways, the truth is in the eye of the beholder. And you also see that with attachment styles.

And one is like, I had a traumatizing childhood, and then you see this case. And then the other child is like, what are you talking about? We had such a great childhood. And it's like, well, what's the truth? In a lot of ways, the truth is in the eye of the beholder. And you also see that with attachment styles.

And one is like, I had a traumatizing childhood, and then you see this case. And then the other child is like, what are you talking about? We had such a great childhood. And it's like, well, what's the truth? In a lot of ways, the truth is in the eye of the beholder. And you also see that with attachment styles.

So I talk about it in the book, but the genes for neuroticism color the extent, what you focus on in your relationship. And so it focuses your attention on various aspects of the relationship. And it makes you ignore maybe some of the better, lovely aspects of relationship that you just can't see because you're so focused on, will they leave me? Will they leave me? Will they leave me?

So I talk about it in the book, but the genes for neuroticism color the extent, what you focus on in your relationship. And so it focuses your attention on various aspects of the relationship. And it makes you ignore maybe some of the better, lovely aspects of relationship that you just can't see because you're so focused on, will they leave me? Will they leave me? Will they leave me?

So I talk about it in the book, but the genes for neuroticism color the extent, what you focus on in your relationship. And so it focuses your attention on various aspects of the relationship. And it makes you ignore maybe some of the better, lovely aspects of relationship that you just can't see because you're so focused on, will they leave me? Will they leave me? Will they leave me?

Does that make sense? And I hope that was somewhat sensitive.

Does that make sense? And I hope that was somewhat sensitive.

Does that make sense? And I hope that was somewhat sensitive.

Yes, yes. And people do make too much of intergenerational trauma effects because the data does show that beyond two generations, there's... indication in the blood of this. So I think that there is some partial truth to this, but I think the trauma researchers make too much of it. They go way beyond what the evidence actually shows. I mean, I could literally show you papers.

Yes, yes. And people do make too much of intergenerational trauma effects because the data does show that beyond two generations, there's... indication in the blood of this. So I think that there is some partial truth to this, but I think the trauma researchers make too much of it. They go way beyond what the evidence actually shows. I mean, I could literally show you papers.

Yes, yes. And people do make too much of intergenerational trauma effects because the data does show that beyond two generations, there's... indication in the blood of this. So I think that there is some partial truth to this, but I think the trauma researchers make too much of it. They go way beyond what the evidence actually shows. I mean, I could literally show you papers.

Let me minimize my use of the word literally. I want to work on that. I overuse the word literal sometimes, but I would love to show you some papers that really cast doubt on the pervasive effects of intergenerational trauma beyond two generations.