Scott Barry Kaufman

Because Irv Yalom is the psychotherapist who has that quote, sooner or later, you have to give up all hope for a better past. Yeah.

Because Irv Yalom is the psychotherapist who has that quote, sooner or later, you have to give up all hope for a better past. Yeah.

Because Irv Yalom is the psychotherapist who has that quote, sooner or later, you have to give up all hope for a better past. Yeah.

Well, there are a lot of different orientations out there for psychotherapy. There's an orientation called trauma-informed therapy that I criticize a little bit because a lot of therapy is going and talking about your past. And I think that it's possible that if you're viewed only through the lens of your trauma, you can forget that you have other things that you can provide to the world.

Well, there are a lot of different orientations out there for psychotherapy. There's an orientation called trauma-informed therapy that I criticize a little bit because a lot of therapy is going and talking about your past. And I think that it's possible that if you're viewed only through the lens of your trauma, you can forget that you have other things that you can provide to the world.

Well, there are a lot of different orientations out there for psychotherapy. There's an orientation called trauma-informed therapy that I criticize a little bit because a lot of therapy is going and talking about your past. And I think that it's possible that if you're viewed only through the lens of your trauma, you can forget that you have other things that you can provide to the world.

You forget that you're allowed to have a future. You're allowed to have a great future. And not all trauma-informed therapy is bad. Of course, there's nuance here. But I think a big part of the message I want to give in this book is that if we only view you through the lens of your victimhood, your potential takes a backseat to your pain.

You forget that you're allowed to have a future. You're allowed to have a great future. And not all trauma-informed therapy is bad. Of course, there's nuance here. But I think a big part of the message I want to give in this book is that if we only view you through the lens of your victimhood, your potential takes a backseat to your pain.

You forget that you're allowed to have a future. You're allowed to have a great future. And not all trauma-informed therapy is bad. Of course, there's nuance here. But I think a big part of the message I want to give in this book is that if we only view you through the lens of your victimhood, your potential takes a backseat to your pain.

Well, therapy obviously could be very helpful. I'm also a big fan of coaching. And so that's why I've gotten into the coaching space in the past five years, because coaching is very future oriented. And it's not about diagnosing you or trying to find what is the diagnosis. I think sometimes we get hung up too much on what is my diagnosis, you know, or what am I?

Well, therapy obviously could be very helpful. I'm also a big fan of coaching. And so that's why I've gotten into the coaching space in the past five years, because coaching is very future oriented. And it's not about diagnosing you or trying to find what is the diagnosis. I think sometimes we get hung up too much on what is my diagnosis, you know, or what am I?

Well, therapy obviously could be very helpful. I'm also a big fan of coaching. And so that's why I've gotten into the coaching space in the past five years, because coaching is very future oriented. And it's not about diagnosing you or trying to find what is the diagnosis. I think sometimes we get hung up too much on what is my diagnosis, you know, or what am I?

And we get so hung up on that, that it's like we're grasping for something to reduce ourselves to, to hang our identity on. And that could get in the way of us seeing our full potential, but seeing the depths of our being as well.

And we get so hung up on that, that it's like we're grasping for something to reduce ourselves to, to hang our identity on. And that could get in the way of us seeing our full potential, but seeing the depths of our being as well.

And we get so hung up on that, that it's like we're grasping for something to reduce ourselves to, to hang our identity on. And that could get in the way of us seeing our full potential, but seeing the depths of our being as well.

Oh, absolutely. So having a victim mindset means you tend to blame all your problems on external circumstances, whether it's that life dealt you a bad hand or that a person or even an entire group of people have it in for you and are holding you back. You believe you don't need to take responsibility for your actions or reactions because of your past trauma.

Oh, absolutely. So having a victim mindset means you tend to blame all your problems on external circumstances, whether it's that life dealt you a bad hand or that a person or even an entire group of people have it in for you and are holding you back. You believe you don't need to take responsibility for your actions or reactions because of your past trauma.

Oh, absolutely. So having a victim mindset means you tend to blame all your problems on external circumstances, whether it's that life dealt you a bad hand or that a person or even an entire group of people have it in for you and are holding you back. You believe you don't need to take responsibility for your actions or reactions because of your past trauma.

So it's perfectly okay to go around being an asshole to people because you can blame that on your own past trauma. You can't stop ruminating about your past victimization. And this probably isn't the most important part of the definition. You may fixate on how to enact revenge and you rarely think about solutions or ways of moving forward with your life with hope and purpose.

So it's perfectly okay to go around being an asshole to people because you can blame that on your own past trauma. You can't stop ruminating about your past victimization. And this probably isn't the most important part of the definition. You may fixate on how to enact revenge and you rarely think about solutions or ways of moving forward with your life with hope and purpose.