Scott Barry Kaufman

So it's perfectly okay to go around being an asshole to people because you can blame that on your own past trauma. You can't stop ruminating about your past victimization. And this probably isn't the most important part of the definition. You may fixate on how to enact revenge and you rarely think about solutions or ways of moving forward with your life with hope and purpose.

That tends to be a real big part of it.

That tends to be a real big part of it.

That tends to be a real big part of it.

Well, you nailed it. And this is what was tricky about the framing of this book and trying to come up with how are we framing this book? Because most of the self-help books that sell really well will tell you it's not you, right? It's either usually the two go-tos we blame are your ex-boyfriend and your mom. Those are the two big ones.

Well, you nailed it. And this is what was tricky about the framing of this book and trying to come up with how are we framing this book? Because most of the self-help books that sell really well will tell you it's not you, right? It's either usually the two go-tos we blame are your ex-boyfriend and your mom. Those are the two big ones.

Well, you nailed it. And this is what was tricky about the framing of this book and trying to come up with how are we framing this book? Because most of the self-help books that sell really well will tell you it's not you, right? It's either usually the two go-tos we blame are your ex-boyfriend and your mom. Those are the two big ones.

And most of the corner of the market and self-help world either blame the mom, the narcissistic borderline mother, or the ex-boyfriend. And so in discussing this with, and then also the Jews, we like blaming the Jews and everything. Well, that's another story. So I was working with my publisher.

And most of the corner of the market and self-help world either blame the mom, the narcissistic borderline mother, or the ex-boyfriend. And so in discussing this with, and then also the Jews, we like blaming the Jews and everything. Well, that's another story. So I was working with my publisher.

And most of the corner of the market and self-help world either blame the mom, the narcissistic borderline mother, or the ex-boyfriend. And so in discussing this with, and then also the Jews, we like blaming the Jews and everything. Well, that's another story. So I was working with my publisher.

First, I wanted to pitch a book on vulnerable narcissism, which is what is the topic I've been scientifically studying for the last 10 years. And they're like, well, people aren't going to admit that they're vulnerable narcissists. So I was like, okay, but this is something that we all, it's a dynamic mindset that we all can go in and out of.

First, I wanted to pitch a book on vulnerable narcissism, which is what is the topic I've been scientifically studying for the last 10 years. And they're like, well, people aren't going to admit that they're vulnerable narcissists. So I was like, okay, but this is something that we all, it's a dynamic mindset that we all can go in and out of.

First, I wanted to pitch a book on vulnerable narcissism, which is what is the topic I've been scientifically studying for the last 10 years. And they're like, well, people aren't going to admit that they're vulnerable narcissists. So I was like, okay, but this is something that we all, it's a dynamic mindset that we all can go in and out of.

And I do think that you lose your agency and you lose your empowerment when you do outsource all your problems to others. When you blame all your problems on someone else, you are stripping yourself of your agency. And so I really wanted people to see that. And I also wanted to come from a clear place of caring and not diagnosis. And I go through great pains. You'll see in the book, right?

And I do think that you lose your agency and you lose your empowerment when you do outsource all your problems to others. When you blame all your problems on someone else, you are stripping yourself of your agency. And so I really wanted people to see that. And I also wanted to come from a clear place of caring and not diagnosis. And I go through great pains. You'll see in the book, right?

And I do think that you lose your agency and you lose your empowerment when you do outsource all your problems to others. When you blame all your problems on someone else, you are stripping yourself of your agency. And so I really wanted people to see that. And I also wanted to come from a clear place of caring and not diagnosis. And I go through great pains. You'll see in the book, right?

Like every sentence, there's a caveat. You know, I'm not here. I'm not in the game of shaming anyone. Not in the game. Usually when you talk about narcissism, when you talk about a victim mindset, it's always like it's the liberals, you know, the libtards or it's always about something else that then people bond together to like. to have the out group be the narcissist.

Like every sentence, there's a caveat. You know, I'm not here. I'm not in the game of shaming anyone. Not in the game. Usually when you talk about narcissism, when you talk about a victim mindset, it's always like it's the liberals, you know, the libtards or it's always about something else that then people bond together to like. to have the out group be the narcissist.

Like every sentence, there's a caveat. You know, I'm not here. I'm not in the game of shaming anyone. Not in the game. Usually when you talk about narcissism, when you talk about a victim mindset, it's always like it's the liberals, you know, the libtards or it's always about something else that then people bond together to like. to have the out group be the narcissist.

And that's not the vibe of my book. I really wanted, I call it honest love. You really validate someone's real felt experience of suffering and you're honest with them that you believe in their higher potential. What I think is missing is that latter part in our society today.