Scott Barry Kaufman

And that's not the vibe of my book. I really wanted, I call it honest love. You really validate someone's real felt experience of suffering and you're honest with them that you believe in their higher potential. What I think is missing is that latter part in our society today.

And that's not the vibe of my book. I really wanted, I call it honest love. You really validate someone's real felt experience of suffering and you're honest with them that you believe in their higher potential. What I think is missing is that latter part in our society today.

Yeah, it's a terrific question. All throughout the course of our day, there's an opportunity to choose a victim mindset or to choose an empowering mindset. If we're waiting at Starbucks, there's a long ass line. It's very easy for us to forget that there are other people in that line as well that are probably also not having a great day.

Yeah, it's a terrific question. All throughout the course of our day, there's an opportunity to choose a victim mindset or to choose an empowering mindset. If we're waiting at Starbucks, there's a long ass line. It's very easy for us to forget that there are other people in that line as well that are probably also not having a great day.

Yeah, it's a terrific question. All throughout the course of our day, there's an opportunity to choose a victim mindset or to choose an empowering mindset. If we're waiting at Starbucks, there's a long ass line. It's very easy for us to forget that there are other people in that line as well that are probably also not having a great day.

But it's very easy to fall prey to the notion, gosh, don't they know how bad my day is? I deserve to be at the front of this line. It's like this certain mentality. that I think we all can kind of fall prey to and we forget that we're not the only ones that are suffering. It happens everywhere.

But it's very easy to fall prey to the notion, gosh, don't they know how bad my day is? I deserve to be at the front of this line. It's like this certain mentality. that I think we all can kind of fall prey to and we forget that we're not the only ones that are suffering. It happens everywhere.

But it's very easy to fall prey to the notion, gosh, don't they know how bad my day is? I deserve to be at the front of this line. It's like this certain mentality. that I think we all can kind of fall prey to and we forget that we're not the only ones that are suffering. It happens everywhere.

A big cognitive distortion associated with a victim mindset is seeing malevolent intent in ambiguous stimuli. Very nerdy. I know you'll be able to parse that, but it's a very nerdy way of saying Let's say you're going down the street. You smile at someone. They don't smile back. And you take it personally. You get mad. You're like, what the fuck? Why did that motherfucker not smile back at me?

A big cognitive distortion associated with a victim mindset is seeing malevolent intent in ambiguous stimuli. Very nerdy. I know you'll be able to parse that, but it's a very nerdy way of saying Let's say you're going down the street. You smile at someone. They don't smile back. And you take it personally. You get mad. You're like, what the fuck? Why did that motherfucker not smile back at me?

A big cognitive distortion associated with a victim mindset is seeing malevolent intent in ambiguous stimuli. Very nerdy. I know you'll be able to parse that, but it's a very nerdy way of saying Let's say you're going down the street. You smile at someone. They don't smile back. And you take it personally. You get mad. You're like, what the fuck? Why did that motherfucker not smile back at me?

I went out of my way to smile at them. It's like, okay, chances are they probably didn't even see your smile. They're not thinking about you. They don't care about you. Why should they care? Why should they care about you? They don't, they don't know anything about you. You know, most likely it was just, it was just ambiguous. It wasn't that aggressive. So personalizing everything,

I went out of my way to smile at them. It's like, okay, chances are they probably didn't even see your smile. They're not thinking about you. They don't care about you. Why should they care? Why should they care about you? They don't, they don't know anything about you. You know, most likely it was just, it was just ambiguous. It wasn't that aggressive. So personalizing everything,

I went out of my way to smile at them. It's like, okay, chances are they probably didn't even see your smile. They're not thinking about you. They don't care about you. Why should they care? Why should they care about you? They don't, they don't know anything about you. You know, most likely it was just, it was just ambiguous. It wasn't that aggressive. So personalizing everything,

um seeing malevolent intent in really just neutral stimuli um a really good example of that is is it really that really bothers comedians you know because that's their job but if they're like they see aggression in ambiguous facial expressions when they're performing on stage and that makes them really angry like why are you not laughing loudly at my jokes um

um seeing malevolent intent in really just neutral stimuli um a really good example of that is is it really that really bothers comedians you know because that's their job but if they're like they see aggression in ambiguous facial expressions when they're performing on stage and that makes them really angry like why are you not laughing loudly at my jokes um

um seeing malevolent intent in really just neutral stimuli um a really good example of that is is it really that really bothers comedians you know because that's their job but if they're like they see aggression in ambiguous facial expressions when they're performing on stage and that makes them really angry like why are you not laughing loudly at my jokes um

And they interpret that as, well, the person hates them and hates their jokes. So that's an extreme example. But if we go across our everyday life like that, over-personalizing things, if someone doesn't text you back right away, you fall apart and think, oh, gosh, they hate me. All that stuff is really holding you back.

And they interpret that as, well, the person hates them and hates their jokes. So that's an extreme example. But if we go across our everyday life like that, over-personalizing things, if someone doesn't text you back right away, you fall apart and think, oh, gosh, they hate me. All that stuff is really holding you back.

And they interpret that as, well, the person hates them and hates their jokes. So that's an extreme example. But if we go across our everyday life like that, over-personalizing things, if someone doesn't text you back right away, you fall apart and think, oh, gosh, they hate me. All that stuff is really holding you back.