Scott Barry Kaufman

And also from an evolutionary point of view, it's important to recognize there are different domains of self-esteem that evolved that are very separate from each other. You can have very high self-esteem for your work and have very low self-esteem for your mate value.

And also from an evolutionary point of view, it's important to recognize there are different domains of self-esteem that evolved that are very separate from each other. You can have very high self-esteem for your work and have very low self-esteem for your mate value.

And also from an evolutionary point of view, it's important to recognize there are different domains of self-esteem that evolved that are very separate from each other. You can have very high self-esteem for your work and have very low self-esteem for your mate value.

they can be very different things so I think there's domain specifically evolved self-esteem as well and there's some really great evolutionary psychology papers around that that I cite in my book right so

they can be very different things so I think there's domain specifically evolved self-esteem as well and there's some really great evolutionary psychology papers around that that I cite in my book right so

they can be very different things so I think there's domain specifically evolved self-esteem as well and there's some really great evolutionary psychology papers around that that I cite in my book right so

Yeah, absolutely. Vulnerable narcissism, which I talked about earlier, is very strongly correlated with this uncertain sense of self. The more that you can have an internal sense of who you are and what you want and be clear on your values, the less your self-esteem is gonna make a difference at all. You don't wanna be obsessed with your self-esteem.

Yeah, absolutely. Vulnerable narcissism, which I talked about earlier, is very strongly correlated with this uncertain sense of self. The more that you can have an internal sense of who you are and what you want and be clear on your values, the less your self-esteem is gonna make a difference at all. You don't wanna be obsessed with your self-esteem.

Yeah, absolutely. Vulnerable narcissism, which I talked about earlier, is very strongly correlated with this uncertain sense of self. The more that you can have an internal sense of who you are and what you want and be clear on your values, the less your self-esteem is gonna make a difference at all. You don't wanna be obsessed with your self-esteem.

You don't wanna be constantly in pursuit of high self-esteem. You don't want that to be your primary goal either. So that's why it's really important to get right with your own inner compass of what you want out of this life and what your actual real felt interests are and listen to them. I think a lot in life, we get values from our society. We get values from others and we want to belong.

You don't wanna be constantly in pursuit of high self-esteem. You don't want that to be your primary goal either. So that's why it's really important to get right with your own inner compass of what you want out of this life and what your actual real felt interests are and listen to them. I think a lot in life, we get values from our society. We get values from others and we want to belong.

You don't wanna be constantly in pursuit of high self-esteem. You don't want that to be your primary goal either. So that's why it's really important to get right with your own inner compass of what you want out of this life and what your actual real felt interests are and listen to them. I think a lot in life, we get values from our society. We get values from others and we want to belong.

So we care so much about belonging to a certain group that we adopt all their values, even if it doesn't really suit us individually.

So we care so much about belonging to a certain group that we adopt all their values, even if it doesn't really suit us individually.

So we care so much about belonging to a certain group that we adopt all their values, even if it doesn't really suit us individually.

I think that's why we need to harness an empowerment mindset. We've talked so much on this podcast about the victim mindset, but my call is for everyone to adopt an empowerment mindset where you play yes. And, you know, I really love improv like yes. And the game where you say, yes, I've had something terrible happen to me and I got this. And it is a shame.

I think that's why we need to harness an empowerment mindset. We've talked so much on this podcast about the victim mindset, but my call is for everyone to adopt an empowerment mindset where you play yes. And, you know, I really love improv like yes. And the game where you say, yes, I've had something terrible happen to me and I got this. And it is a shame.

I think that's why we need to harness an empowerment mindset. We've talked so much on this podcast about the victim mindset, but my call is for everyone to adopt an empowerment mindset where you play yes. And, you know, I really love improv like yes. And the game where you say, yes, I've had something terrible happen to me and I got this. And it is a shame.

I see so much in our society of us just stopping with the, so much has happened to me and I don't see the end part of that, which is, and I have the deep reservoirs of resiliency to move forward with my life, with meaning and purpose. Both things can be true at the same time. We don't need to neglect the,

I see so much in our society of us just stopping with the, so much has happened to me and I don't see the end part of that, which is, and I have the deep reservoirs of resiliency to move forward with my life, with meaning and purpose. Both things can be true at the same time. We don't need to neglect the,