Scott Barry Kaufman

Let's dive into attachment theory.

Because there are so many misconceptions about what attachment theory is and there are so many ideas that it's all the fault. I think a lot of people have a victim mindset about attachment theory. They say, well, I have an insecure attachment because of the way I was raised.

Because there are so many misconceptions about what attachment theory is and there are so many ideas that it's all the fault. I think a lot of people have a victim mindset about attachment theory. They say, well, I have an insecure attachment because of the way I was raised.

Because there are so many misconceptions about what attachment theory is and there are so many ideas that it's all the fault. I think a lot of people have a victim mindset about attachment theory. They say, well, I have an insecure attachment because of the way I was raised.

But as I talk about in the book, the behavioral genetics research shows that there is a pretty substantial heritability of your attachment style. And I think that it relates to your personality. Like if you score very high in neuroticism, which is going to be influenced by your genes and your environment, but genes really matter in influencing the development of your neurotic traits.

But as I talk about in the book, the behavioral genetics research shows that there is a pretty substantial heritability of your attachment style. And I think that it relates to your personality. Like if you score very high in neuroticism, which is going to be influenced by your genes and your environment, but genes really matter in influencing the development of your neurotic traits.

But as I talk about in the book, the behavioral genetics research shows that there is a pretty substantial heritability of your attachment style. And I think that it relates to your personality. Like if you score very high in neuroticism, which is going to be influenced by your genes and your environment, but genes really matter in influencing the development of your neurotic traits.

you're going to be more anxious in your relationships. You're going to be more self-doubting and it's going to show up in your relationships, but it's also going to show up everywhere and everywhere else in your life. So I think attachment theorists sometimes look a little too narrowly at the attachment relationship domain.

you're going to be more anxious in your relationships. You're going to be more self-doubting and it's going to show up in your relationships, but it's also going to show up everywhere and everywhere else in your life. So I think attachment theorists sometimes look a little too narrowly at the attachment relationship domain.

you're going to be more anxious in your relationships. You're going to be more self-doubting and it's going to show up in your relationships, but it's also going to show up everywhere and everywhere else in your life. So I think attachment theorists sometimes look a little too narrowly at the attachment relationship domain.

And I think they could use a zoom out a little bit and take a bit of a personality neuroscience slash genetics perspective a little bit more.

And I think they could use a zoom out a little bit and take a bit of a personality neuroscience slash genetics perspective a little bit more.

And I think they could use a zoom out a little bit and take a bit of a personality neuroscience slash genetics perspective a little bit more.

Yes. But if I gave only that message, then there'd be no point in writing the book Rise Above. Because we also have an agency, as you said, to compensate, to do what we need to not... What's it going to do to help you to say, oh, I have the genes for shortness. I'm just going to never talk to women ever again. What is the use of that? What is the benefit of that?

Yes. But if I gave only that message, then there'd be no point in writing the book Rise Above. Because we also have an agency, as you said, to compensate, to do what we need to not... What's it going to do to help you to say, oh, I have the genes for shortness. I'm just going to never talk to women ever again. What is the use of that? What is the benefit of that?

Yes. But if I gave only that message, then there'd be no point in writing the book Rise Above. Because we also have an agency, as you said, to compensate, to do what we need to not... What's it going to do to help you to say, oh, I have the genes for shortness. I'm just going to never talk to women ever again. What is the use of that? What is the benefit of that?

So no matter what circumstance you're in and no matter what hand God has dealt you, I think it's very much in our control to do what we can with what we have. So I think both are true, and we can hold both in our mind at the same time. But you're right. I mean, it drives me crazy when people ignore the role of genes. And I have a whole section of my book on that in terms of...

So no matter what circumstance you're in and no matter what hand God has dealt you, I think it's very much in our control to do what we can with what we have. So I think both are true, and we can hold both in our mind at the same time. But you're right. I mean, it drives me crazy when people ignore the role of genes. And I have a whole section of my book on that in terms of...

So no matter what circumstance you're in and no matter what hand God has dealt you, I think it's very much in our control to do what we can with what we have. So I think both are true, and we can hold both in our mind at the same time. But you're right. I mean, it drives me crazy when people ignore the role of genes. And I have a whole section of my book on that in terms of...

not just attachment theory, but also, well, it's a very controversial thing to say that trauma is heritable. That's probably one of the most, if you want to not be a lot of people to like you at a cocktail party, tell them that trauma has a high heritability.