Scott Shigeoka

I mean, I think any of us can think about our own personal relationships and remember a time when maybe someone wasn't being curious towards us, right? The opposite of curiosity is in curiosity. And maybe they're trying to tell us their their own viewpoint versus understanding our own.

Maybe you're trying to share a story, but they keep inserting their own story rather than asking questions or really listening to what we're saying. And oftentimes what happens is when someone is directing that in curiosity towards us and we don't feel seen, we don't feel heard, we don't feel acknowledged, we don't feel like they're taking the time to understand us.

Maybe you're trying to share a story, but they keep inserting their own story rather than asking questions or really listening to what we're saying. And oftentimes what happens is when someone is directing that in curiosity towards us and we don't feel seen, we don't feel heard, we don't feel acknowledged, we don't feel like they're taking the time to understand us.

Maybe you're trying to share a story, but they keep inserting their own story rather than asking questions or really listening to what we're saying. And oftentimes what happens is when someone is directing that in curiosity towards us and we don't feel seen, we don't feel heard, we don't feel acknowledged, we don't feel like they're taking the time to understand us.

Um, that, that really affects negatively the way that we feel about them. And research actually backs us that, um, in curiosity can drive negative emotions towards others, um, towards the people that we're in contact with.

Um, that, that really affects negatively the way that we feel about them. And research actually backs us that, um, in curiosity can drive negative emotions towards others, um, towards the people that we're in contact with.

Um, that, that really affects negatively the way that we feel about them. And research actually backs us that, um, in curiosity can drive negative emotions towards others, um, towards the people that we're in contact with.

And, and the opposite side, when we are curious, which means we're asking questions, we're listening, um, you know, we're acknowledging the person that's in front of us, really seeing them. You know, something I like to say is that people who are seen stay and, there's research to back that up as well.

And, and the opposite side, when we are curious, which means we're asking questions, we're listening, um, you know, we're acknowledging the person that's in front of us, really seeing them. You know, something I like to say is that people who are seen stay and, there's research to back that up as well.

And, and the opposite side, when we are curious, which means we're asking questions, we're listening, um, you know, we're acknowledging the person that's in front of us, really seeing them. You know, something I like to say is that people who are seen stay and, there's research to back that up as well.

In both cases, whether you're really close to someone, let's say a partner where research has been done around curiosity is within partnerships, those partners where they feel that their partners are curious towards them, listens to them, they feel seen in the relationship, it is more likely that they're going to be happier.

In both cases, whether you're really close to someone, let's say a partner where research has been done around curiosity is within partnerships, those partners where they feel that their partners are curious towards them, listens to them, they feel seen in the relationship, it is more likely that they're going to be happier.

In both cases, whether you're really close to someone, let's say a partner where research has been done around curiosity is within partnerships, those partners where they feel that their partners are curious towards them, listens to them, they feel seen in the relationship, it is more likely that they're going to be happier.

But even with those who we aren't as close with, strangers that we meet in a research setting, we found that there's an increase in the ways that we feel positively towards people who express curiosity towards us.

But even with those who we aren't as close with, strangers that we meet in a research setting, we found that there's an increase in the ways that we feel positively towards people who express curiosity towards us.

But even with those who we aren't as close with, strangers that we meet in a research setting, we found that there's an increase in the ways that we feel positively towards people who express curiosity towards us.

So when we haven't met a person ever before, but they start asking us questions and they seem to be genuinely interested in who we are, we feel more positively about them compared to those who are not expressing curiosity towards them.

So when we haven't met a person ever before, but they start asking us questions and they seem to be genuinely interested in who we are, we feel more positively about them compared to those who are not expressing curiosity towards them.

So when we haven't met a person ever before, but they start asking us questions and they seem to be genuinely interested in who we are, we feel more positively about them compared to those who are not expressing curiosity towards them.

so that's what i mean and i think it's best to think about personal examples in your own life think about the people who do express curiosity towards you who really seem genuinely interested in your life you're often going to have warmer feelings towards them feel more cared for by them and probably want to sustain those kinds of relationships it seems that sometimes especially in relationships with people that we know and we feel comfortable with