Seth Gehle

And I froze up, which is very typical. Um, and then freezing is basically consent to, uh, those people, right? Um, because they know as soon as you freeze up or you don't reject or deny, uh, that approach that, um, you've got them essentially, you know, and so you just push the limits further, uh, as much as you can. Um, and the people that do this are very strategic. They're very manipulative.

And I froze up, which is very typical. Um, and then freezing is basically consent to, uh, those people, right? Um, because they know as soon as you freeze up or you don't reject or deny, uh, that approach that, um, you've got them essentially, you know, and so you just push the limits further, uh, as much as you can. Um, and the people that do this are very strategic. They're very manipulative.

They're very, uh, most of the time, very patient, very calm. I was going to say we're months in at this point. Yeah. Yeah. And we hear the gravel turning outside. Jacob pulls in and he moves his hand away. You know, we watch some football, eat some tacos, go home. And the very next thing that happens is very typical is I gaslight myself. That didn't just happen.

They're very, uh, most of the time, very patient, very calm. I was going to say we're months in at this point. Yeah. Yeah. And we hear the gravel turning outside. Jacob pulls in and he moves his hand away. You know, we watch some football, eat some tacos, go home. And the very next thing that happens is very typical is I gaslight myself. That didn't just happen.

They're very, uh, most of the time, very patient, very calm. I was going to say we're months in at this point. Yeah. Yeah. And we hear the gravel turning outside. Jacob pulls in and he moves his hand away. You know, we watch some football, eat some tacos, go home. And the very next thing that happens is very typical is I gaslight myself. That didn't just happen.

That that wasn't supposed to happen or it's not going to happen again. You know, it's raining and you're telling yourself it's not raining. You know, that's that is gaslighting. And that's what you do. You know, if if if you slapped your wife right in front of me, it's like the bystander effect as well. It's almost like, well, what the hell? Like that didn't just that didn't just happen, did it?

That that wasn't supposed to happen or it's not going to happen again. You know, it's raining and you're telling yourself it's not raining. You know, that's that is gaslighting. And that's what you do. You know, if if if you slapped your wife right in front of me, it's like the bystander effect as well. It's almost like, well, what the hell? Like that didn't just that didn't just happen, did it?

That that wasn't supposed to happen or it's not going to happen again. You know, it's raining and you're telling yourself it's not raining. You know, that's that is gaslighting. And that's what you do. You know, if if if you slapped your wife right in front of me, it's like the bystander effect as well. It's almost like, well, what the hell? Like that didn't just that didn't just happen, did it?

So then you're you're just it's like this consent. You just let this thing just happen. So anyways, begin to gaslight myself with that. And then as the months go on from this point forward, the abuse just progressed every single weekend, you know, and it was it wasn't like first base, second base, third base. It was like one finger in the waistband, two fingers in the waistband.

So then you're you're just it's like this consent. You just let this thing just happen. So anyways, begin to gaslight myself with that. And then as the months go on from this point forward, the abuse just progressed every single weekend, you know, and it was it wasn't like first base, second base, third base. It was like one finger in the waistband, two fingers in the waistband.

So then you're you're just it's like this consent. You just let this thing just happen. So anyways, begin to gaslight myself with that. And then as the months go on from this point forward, the abuse just progressed every single weekend, you know, and it was it wasn't like first base, second base, third base. It was like one finger in the waistband, two fingers in the waistband.

Three, four, five. And it's just like inches. He's just like it's a game of inches that they play. There's no big moves. There's nothing big and drastic. It's a slow, steady burn that they use. OK. And when they're manipulating the child, they're not just getting that child. They're manipulating everybody around them, their family, friends, all those things.

Three, four, five. And it's just like inches. He's just like it's a game of inches that they play. There's no big moves. There's nothing big and drastic. It's a slow, steady burn that they use. OK. And when they're manipulating the child, they're not just getting that child. They're manipulating everybody around them, their family, friends, all those things.

Three, four, five. And it's just like inches. He's just like it's a game of inches that they play. There's no big moves. There's nothing big and drastic. It's a slow, steady burn that they use. OK. And when they're manipulating the child, they're not just getting that child. They're manipulating everybody around them, their family, friends, all those things.

So all that to say, as the abuse got worse, at some point I was basically trapped. It feels like, you know, it's like if you drink these waters every day and then you pick a different water to drink and somebody's like, well, what are you doing? Why are you not drinking that water? Is there something wrong with it? And then so for me, I was hanging out with him so much.

So all that to say, as the abuse got worse, at some point I was basically trapped. It feels like, you know, it's like if you drink these waters every day and then you pick a different water to drink and somebody's like, well, what are you doing? Why are you not drinking that water? Is there something wrong with it? And then so for me, I was hanging out with him so much.

So all that to say, as the abuse got worse, at some point I was basically trapped. It feels like, you know, it's like if you drink these waters every day and then you pick a different water to drink and somebody's like, well, what are you doing? Why are you not drinking that water? Is there something wrong with it? And then so for me, I was hanging out with him so much.

If I stopped hanging out with him because he was doing weird shit, people start asking me questions, right? And you just don't want those questions. You're just scared of that. You don't want to explain yourself. You're just scared of that. So where was Jacob while this was escalating? So Jacob, um, he was on and off. He would be there some weekends, some weekends he wouldn't be there.

If I stopped hanging out with him because he was doing weird shit, people start asking me questions, right? And you just don't want those questions. You're just scared of that. You don't want to explain yourself. You're just scared of that. So where was Jacob while this was escalating? So Jacob, um, he was on and off. He would be there some weekends, some weekends he wouldn't be there.

If I stopped hanging out with him because he was doing weird shit, people start asking me questions, right? And you just don't want those questions. You're just scared of that. You don't want to explain yourself. You're just scared of that. So where was Jacob while this was escalating? So Jacob, um, he was on and off. He would be there some weekends, some weekends he wouldn't be there.