Shadé Zahrai

And when you work through it really pragmatically and you ask yourself, okay, well, what is the worst thing that can happen?

Often you realize it's nowhere near as big as you've made it in your mind.

We are catastrophizing.

It will be the end of the world when actually, okay, so-and-so doesn't like me.

Oh, well, I'll get on with my life.

When you can break it down and just be really rational and logical and pragmatic, you realize we're creating all of these problems for ourselves and we don't need to be.

I think it was Jim Rohn who famously said that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

I don't think there's scientific validation around the number five, but there is very solid evidence that who you spend time with fundamentally changes how you believe in yourself, your value, your capability, and whether you rise to what you're capable of.

If you're around people who want you to play small, you shrink to meet their expectations.

It's called the Gollum effect.

And then when you're around people who believe in you, you are more likely to believe in yourself and live up to their expectations.

When you're in a position where you have a strong track record of success, you have achievements, you've performed well, and you feel like it was a fluke or it was undeserving, that is what that feeling of an imposter is.

Some studies have found that 82% of people have felt like that at some point.

So it's actually not uncommon at all.

The vast majority of people have experienced that.

One great way to think about it is perhaps it's just growth with integrity.

Maybe you are growing and you are in positions that are stretching you and are new and you acknowledge, maybe I don't have all the skills or the credentials to be here, but I'm here.

So how am I going to make it count?

How can I learn?

How can I grow?