Shade Zahrai

This is the power of the fact that we can retrain our brain.

Not only that, it's also the power of acknowledging.

Okay, I'm going to share with you an analogy or a little story.

So there was a psychology professor and he stood at the front of his class and he held up a glass of water.

So this is a mug, but he held up a glass of water, full of water.

And he asked the group, how heavy is this glass?

And these students are yelling out what they think, how heavy the glass is, and he's just looking at them.

And then he looks at the glass and he says, you know, the absolute weight of this glass doesn't matter to how heavy it is to me.

How heavy it is to me depends on how long I hold it.

If I hold it for, to take a sip, it's not very heavy.

If I hold it for 20 minutes, it's going to feel a little heavier.

If I hold it for three hours, my muscles are going to cramp and I might end up dropping it.

Suddenly it's extremely heavy.

Now, the message here that he was getting to is that we're all holding a bunch of mugs or cups in our lives.

And sometimes we feel like we have to hold them all, all the time.

Cognitive load, emotional load, physical load.

You can put the cup down at any time and take a step back and ask yourself, just because I can hold all of these things,

should I be holding all of these things?

And I love that analogy because for me, during that time of my intense research, I was holding too many cups and the cup of memory was gone.

It was when I was finished that I recognized, ah, okay, the reason why I didn't have the ability to recall things was just because I had too much on.