Shade Zahrai

Simply by changing what you're saying.

So that's the next level.

It's making sure that...

Whatever you're feeling, you're interpreting it in a way that's going to help you.

When we see stress as helpful or what's called stress as enhancing, research shows that we perform better.

We have less of a negative response to stress because stress is helpful when it's at the right levels.

Yeah, and this is actually called empowered language in the literature.

They found that when you use language of have to, can't, get, have to, can't, or what's the other one?

Should.

It leads you to feel less motivated and more susceptible to temptation.

Whereas if you shifted to have to, sorry, if you shifted to want to, get to, or choose to, you feel a greater sense of motivation and you're able to resist temptation more.

And what I love about especially choose to, you're reminding yourself it is a choice, which elevates your autonomy.

Now, the flip side of that is let's say that you are having a really off day and you really just need to stay in bed.

Rather than saying, I have to stay in bed, you'd say, I'm choosing to rest today because my body needs it.

Again, you make a choice to do that rather than feeling like, oh, my body's not allowing me to.

Why me?

That's the power of choice.

the next level so you've just seen me across the room you've come up to me you've seen what i'm wearing my posture my face my eyes my smile it's going to be how i speak so when we're nervous when we're a little anxious we tend to speak a little bit higher we speak from our our you know the throat area rather than our diaphragm see the difference between this and then this and

That is the difference of how it sounds, whether we're really nervous and excited and kind of not really sure how to manage it.

And then we get a bit frantic and we don't have pauses and then the person can't keep up.