Shade Zahrai

So if someone responds positively, we are more likely to feel positive about ourselves.

If someone questions our abilities, we're more likely to question our abilities.

So if you can show up and start implementing these simple perceptions of confidence, it again changes how people are responding to you, which changes how you're feeling, which changes what you say and what you do, and you create this beautiful positive upward spiral.

So I love this.

There's something that I like to talk about, and I'm sure there's research on it and people have probably written books on it, but this is what I've observed.

When we talk about presence or this term charisma, which is really interesting because the research doesn't really have a clear view on how to define charisma, but we'll use it because I think RIS, you know, we know what it means intuitively.

So when we look at charisma, I think there are two types.

One of them is what we call captivating charisma.

So it's that person in the room who is just so engaging when they're telling their story and everyone is listening to their every word.

It's that person on stage who captivates you from the moment they start speaking.

You are in awe at what they're doing.

That's captivating charisma.

Then we have the other type.

Now I'll share what it is in a moment.

Have you ever heard someone speak and they're amazing on stage and then they walk off stage and you actually don't have any desire to go and speak to them?

Yeah.

Or there's someone at a party and you're listening to their story and it's so captivating, but then the story ends and everyone kind of just moves away.

Yeah.

It's because those people lack what I call magnetic charisma.

So on the one hand, captivating charisma is the come and watch me, I'm so engaging.