Shade Zahrai

And then I had one manager who would make me doubt everything, everything.

And it wasn't even him saying anything.

It was just the way that he showed up, the way that he would come to meetings, the way that he would ask questions.

and I couldn't figure it out.

And I was getting really worried.

I was then getting really in my head.

What am I doing?

Have I been mistaken this entire time?

Maybe I'm not as good as I think I am.

And it was every single time.

And then I spoke to the girl that had the role before me, the young woman who had the role before me, and she said, I thought I was the only one.

He made me feel that way too.

So that was really reassuring that it wasn't just me.

He had certain tendencies

that led us, and this is the other thing, no one can make you feel a certain way.

You allow yourself to feel a certain way because of something they're doing.

So it is a choice that we're allowing to happen.

There were certain things he did, like he wouldn't make a lot of eye contact and he would be staring at his notes

And so that makes you feel like you're wasting his time.

That was the first piece.