Shahroo Izadi

Let's just shut this off.

And you need to assume that for the rest of your life...

Yes.

All day we're engaging in habits.

If you didn't choose them, they chose you.

Yes.

Right.

So for the rest of your life, you're going to be running a program and you can see it like a software.

And that's another thing I learned in addiction treatment.

We're all already running a program.

The way you do things, the way you operate, the way you eat, the way you sit, the way you see forgiveness, the way you see yourself.

All of these things are learned and can be unlearned.

And what's really important is that all of us, with the kindness method, what I wanted to do is to say to people, you don't have to tell me what you want to change.

You don't have to trust me.

I just want to give you a process so that step by step you can work out why you're finding it so hard to change even though you want to and you know objectively how to.

and the downsides, you're very aware of them.

And how to access that version of you that cares about having this conversation with me right now, who you should assume is going to disappear as soon as I leave the room.

Especially if I'm working with addiction vulnerable people who tend to have object impermanence and black and white thinking too.

What happens right now is what exists.

My friend Phipps always says that to me.