Shauna Pearson

I feel like the number one thing that affects us in terms of our relationships is growing up and spending your entire childhood and possibly young adulthood feeling misunderstood by everyone.

Because like I was saying at the beginning, we literally do exist on a different frequency.

And I think anyone with ADHD is going to attest to this.

We're in a different place.

Whether we're up here or down here, we're never like this with people.

And so...

when you always feel misunderstood you become number one obviously it hurts your self-esteem but you become quite reactive and i don't know if your son is like this but we're always like this trigger constantly and you over explain and you overreact and because

You're just being, if anybody doesn't understand one thing, you feel like they're just not understanding all of it and they're not understanding you and you're not, now they don't like you anymore.

And just, it goes so deep.

And so we tend to, people with ADHD, have a tougher time in relationships because of, just because of this underlying belief that no one's going to really understand me.

No one understands me.

Sometimes I don't understand me.

And so it's really hard to be completely connected to another person when you feel like they're never going to understand you.

And so fights become bigger, arguments become more frequent, and it's hard.

It's hard.

That's why it bothers me when people refer to ADHD as a superpower.

It really does because there's nothing about ADHD that makes life easier.

And it's difficult to manage ADHD on so many levels, like in your relationships, career, personal health, name it.

And so when people are like, oh, it's a superpower, you should be able to do like all of these things so much.

You've got this and you don't.