Shi Heng Yi

And now have this direct comparison to yourself.

This is why it becomes so much easier now that you are not going to act anymore out of ill will.

So the ill will is only there because you are not at that level yet where you can

Stand above it.

Easily said.

Yes, exactly, in that moment.

That's why if you feel like moments are too overwhelming for you, number one is get out of the situation.

If we get into a big argument right now and you feel like, no, this is too overwhelming, I would now really start, get out of the room, number one.

So something very practical.

Yes.

If something is too overwhelming, then we say, get distance first of all.

Get distance.

Get distance.

Now, this is a nice part, for example, that our abbot, for example, in the monastery also teach us.

He always said, you need to be able to adjust room and time.

You need to be able to learn and adjust space and time.

It sounds very philosophical.

But space and time means, if we're in an argument, a big one,

I want space first of all, so that means I have distance to observe, that is the space.

And I want time, because time lets me think more clearly if I'm not under pressure.