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You have to eat.

And if you're not hungry, you have to eat.

And so my husband and I, now if someone comes to our house, we're forcing them to have a drink and we're forcing them to eat.

We've like combined the best and the worst of both of our upbringings.

And money is the exact same.

If you come from different backgrounds, which of course you will, you didn't grow up in the same household and that would be kind of weird, then you're going to just view money differently.

So it's so important, I always say, to like just understand where they're coming from and talk to them.

Be like, hey, what was money like growing up?

Was money tight or was it like loosely kind of given out and how does that affect you today?

and explain to them where you're coming from so the next time you do something that maybe they don't like they're like you know what it's because of how she grew up or it's because of how he grew up and therefore you're not like angry at each other you're just coming from a place of understanding I have two friends where one of them has grown up with a lot of financial um

up and down in her life.

And so while she has a very stable job and makes good money, she's still very scared to spend it and doesn't want to splurge on things.

And if she met someone that came into her life, they'd be like, you make all this money, like, why won't you just spend it?

Like, you're just so tight-knit.

wound but if they heard like her family had this business and then it all fell apart and then you know she's now in charge of looking after them they would understand exactly where she's coming from.

Now the next part of this episode is doing the thing that is really really hard which is chatting to your partner about money.

I don't think anyone goes into a relationship and is like

yeah, it's really easy.

We like sat down, we talked it out and we were on the same page.

That like very rarely happens.