Simon Sinek

I think the uninvitations happen more than the invitations. Sure, sure, sure. You know? And they just wish he would stop cursing. Right, right. Because the audience doesn't want that. Right. And... If he doesn't care, then he doesn't care. Exactly, yeah. But you know, the point is there are costs. Sure, of course. There's a price. There's a price. There's a price for everything.

I think the uninvitations happen more than the invitations. Sure, sure, sure. You know? And they just wish he would stop cursing. Right, right. Because the audience doesn't want that. Right. And... If he doesn't care, then he doesn't care. Exactly, yeah. But you know, the point is there are costs. Sure, of course. There's a price. There's a price. There's a price for everything.

But anyway, the point is not that. The point is the value of friends is that you can be yourself without judgment. Yes.

But anyway, the point is not that. The point is the value of friends is that you can be yourself without judgment. Yes.

So here, I know we're winding down, but let's do a couple of practical things. One of them was if you're in conflict with someone, and let's talk about relationships because it works at work as well because relationships are relationships, but here's some mistakes that we make. We correct people's facts in an emotional situation. We bring facts to an emotional gunfight. Do not do that. Really?

So here, I know we're winding down, but let's do a couple of practical things. One of them was if you're in conflict with someone, and let's talk about relationships because it works at work as well because relationships are relationships, but here's some mistakes that we make. We correct people's facts in an emotional situation. We bring facts to an emotional gunfight. Do not do that. Really?

Right. So for example. Why not? Because facts don't, facts and emotions are different things. Right? I'll give you an example. Your girlfriend says to you, I'm so angry at you because six times last week you did this thing and you went, actually it was four times. And she was like, who cares how many times it was? Like, if you're going to fight with me, get your facts right. Yeah. Don't do that.

Right. So for example. Why not? Because facts don't, facts and emotions are different things. Right? I'll give you an example. Your girlfriend says to you, I'm so angry at you because six times last week you did this thing and you went, actually it was four times. And she was like, who cares how many times it was? Like, if you're going to fight with me, get your facts right. Yeah. Don't do that.

Just let it be sex. It doesn't matter.

Just let it be sex. It doesn't matter.

No, do not bring facts to an emotional gunfight.

No, do not bring facts to an emotional gunfight.

It's nothing to do with fairness. It's about the other person feeling heard. You're getting, you're playing the wrong rules. I got that. I got that. Playing with the wrong rules. So do not bring facts to an emotional gunfight. Okay. Okay. Allow emotions. So I'll give you a real life example, okay, of where I learned this, or one of the ways I applied this. I went to see a friend's performance.

It's nothing to do with fairness. It's about the other person feeling heard. You're getting, you're playing the wrong rules. I got that. I got that. Playing with the wrong rules. So do not bring facts to an emotional gunfight. Okay. Okay. Allow emotions. So I'll give you a real life example, okay, of where I learned this, or one of the ways I applied this. I went to see a friend's performance.

that she was in a show. It was the worst thing I've ever seen in my entire life. And at the end of the show, I went and hung out in the lobby like all the friends and family. And she came out all jacked up on adrenaline, still in costume, still in makeup. Big smile on her face. She goes, what'd you think? She knows I'm an honest broker. She knows I'm not going to lie to her. Now is not the time.

that she was in a show. It was the worst thing I've ever seen in my entire life. And at the end of the show, I went and hung out in the lobby like all the friends and family. And she came out all jacked up on adrenaline, still in costume, still in makeup. Big smile on her face. She goes, what'd you think? She knows I'm an honest broker. She knows I'm not going to lie to her. Now is not the time.

Now is not the time. So I said, but I can't lie. Yes. So I said, oh my God, I'm so proud of you. True. So this was so much fun for me to be able to see you do your thing for the first time. I've never seen you on stage before. True. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Kiss, kiss, kiss. And then goes off to the next person.

Now is not the time. So I said, but I can't lie. Yes. So I said, oh my God, I'm so proud of you. True. So this was so much fun for me to be able to see you do your thing for the first time. I've never seen you on stage before. True. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Kiss, kiss, kiss. And then goes off to the next person.

Two days later, when all the adrenaline has calmed down and there's no more emotion, I said to her, hey, you asked me what I thought about the play. Can I tell you, can we talk about it? She goes, yeah, absolutely. And then I can say, eh, I thought the directing was a bit weak. I thought the thing, and we can have a rational conversation about it. If I did that in the moment,

Two days later, when all the adrenaline has calmed down and there's no more emotion, I said to her, hey, you asked me what I thought about the play. Can I tell you, can we talk about it? She goes, yeah, absolutely. And then I can say, eh, I thought the directing was a bit weak. I thought the thing, and we can have a rational conversation about it. If I did that in the moment,