Simon Sinek

No, it's nothing to do with the goal early. It's now you get to, you've got the thing that you wanted and now you get to design a life that you want. Irrespective. You don't have to pursue winning anymore. The win has happened. You can look back at the goalposts and be like, I did the main thing I wanted. I did it. So whether it's

No, it's nothing to do with the goal early. It's now you get to, you've got the thing that you wanted and now you get to design a life that you want. Irrespective. You don't have to pursue winning anymore. The win has happened. You can look back at the goalposts and be like, I did the main thing I wanted. I did it. So whether it's

whether it's the Olympics or starting a family or starting a business, whether it succeeds or fails, right? I did it. And now I'm gonna design a life, you know, that I wanna live beyond. And it's relative to however anybody else wants to define the win. Right. Do you feel like you've, gotten the win for yourself? I've had to learn, it was a lesson that I learned this year.

whether it's the Olympics or starting a family or starting a business, whether it succeeds or fails, right? I did it. And now I'm gonna design a life, you know, that I wanna live beyond. And it's relative to however anybody else wants to define the win. Right. Do you feel like you've, gotten the win for yourself? I've had to learn, it was a lesson that I learned this year.

And it's a friend of mine who said it to me, because it was Teddy Roosevelt who said, comparison is the thief of joy. And I love the way he put that, the thief of joy, it steals joy. If you keep comparing yourself to other people and what they've achieved, That act of comparison literally will steal joy from you.

And it's a friend of mine who said it to me, because it was Teddy Roosevelt who said, comparison is the thief of joy. And I love the way he put that, the thief of joy, it steals joy. If you keep comparing yourself to other people and what they've achieved, That act of comparison literally will steal joy from you.

You will never be satisfied with what you have because you will always find somebody who's richer, better looking, got a nicer house, a net better car, a better looking girlfriend or boyfriend, better vacations, you know, whatever it is. 100% of the time, 100% of the time. And the metrics are completely, like if you and I started comparing our metrics to each other, right?

You will never be satisfied with what you have because you will always find somebody who's richer, better looking, got a nicer house, a net better car, a better looking girlfriend or boyfriend, better vacations, you know, whatever it is. 100% of the time, 100% of the time. And the metrics are completely, like if you and I started comparing our metrics to each other, right?

If I looked at your podcast audience views, I'd be like, I'm a failure. Lewis' feeling pulls me out of the water. I'm a failure. But if I change the metric to LinkedIn followers, Who's your daddy? I got you. Crushing it, yeah. I'm crushing you, right? Oh, but let's make it book sales. Or let's make it... Intellect. Household income. Whatever.

If I looked at your podcast audience views, I'd be like, I'm a failure. Lewis' feeling pulls me out of the water. I'm a failure. But if I change the metric to LinkedIn followers, Who's your daddy? I got you. Crushing it, yeah. I'm crushing you, right? Oh, but let's make it book sales. Or let's make it... Intellect. Household income. Whatever.

And like, I can feel depressed or I can feel elated just by simply changing where I'm looking. That's exhausting, right? And so I think what ends up happening is we focus on the one that is competitive. Well, I'm going to get more followers than Lewis. I'll show him. And I go ahead. I'm like, Yahtzee! But... If I just look over here, I'm a loser again.

And like, I can feel depressed or I can feel elated just by simply changing where I'm looking. That's exhausting, right? And so I think what ends up happening is we focus on the one that is competitive. Well, I'm going to get more followers than Lewis. I'll show him. And I go ahead. I'm like, Yahtzee! But... If I just look over here, I'm a loser again.

And I think that's what I mean by winning, right? Which is, I kept changing what I was looking at. I would be, I'm like, I'm doing great. And then I'd change what I'm looking at or change who I'm looking at. I'm like, oh, you know? And it was a friend of mine who said to me, Simon, you've won. Stop it. Stop it.

And I think that's what I mean by winning, right? Which is, I kept changing what I was looking at. I would be, I'm like, I'm doing great. And then I'd change what I'm looking at or change who I'm looking at. I'm like, oh, you know? And it was a friend of mine who said to me, Simon, you've won. Stop it. Stop it.

I think there are times where I make no comparisons and I'm very satisfied. And there are times for whatever reason, bad night's sleep, feeling a little insecure. Yeah. It sneaks in. Ah, why is this person this and this? It sneaks in. It sneaks in. It sneaks in.

I think there are times where I make no comparisons and I'm very satisfied. And there are times for whatever reason, bad night's sleep, feeling a little insecure. Yeah. It sneaks in. Ah, why is this person this and this? It sneaks in. It sneaks in. It sneaks in.

It sneaks in. Yeah, I think it's unavoidable. And that's why this, I don't actually believe in winning or losing. I mean, you know that about me. Yeah, yeah. I think it's a rhetorical trick. It's a rhetorical trick. It's another way of saying, just be grateful. You're fine.

It sneaks in. Yeah, I think it's unavoidable. And that's why this, I don't actually believe in winning or losing. I mean, you know that about me. Yeah, yeah. I think it's a rhetorical trick. It's a rhetorical trick. It's another way of saying, just be grateful. You're fine.

Like I set out to contribute to the world and I made strategic decisions that my contribution would be bigger than me. And it has been big. So for example, people who come up with ideas They put a little TM on whatever they call their idea. Always. On their website. Trademark. A little trademark. Which basically means, don't touch, this is mine. Mine. I want everybody to know it's mine.

Like I set out to contribute to the world and I made strategic decisions that my contribution would be bigger than me. And it has been big. So for example, people who come up with ideas They put a little TM on whatever they call their idea. Always. On their website. Trademark. A little trademark. Which basically means, don't touch, this is mine. Mine. I want everybody to know it's mine.