Simone Stolzoff

character-refining moments in their own way.

It could be a really hard way to learn a lesson.

Author Dan Pink has this book, The Power of Regret.

And the idea that has stuck with me from that book is that regret can be incredibly instructive.

When we know that we regretted something, it shows us that we really cared about something.

Say it.

that you're deciding between going on vacation to Paris or to Rome.

This feels much higher stakes than pasta or pizza at the restaurant, right?

It's potentially very costly.

It's potentially one of the few vacations that you can take that year or maybe in that few years.

And so we think it's a really big deal decision.

And so you might create a spreadsheet and compare things and worry about what might happen if you get swindled by an Italian cab driver or get food poisoning from bad escargot or whatever and think about all the reasons why one choice or the other could go wrong.

But the only option test is basically, say I said you only have one option and your option is to take a trip to Rome.

Would you be happy?

Okay, you only have one option and your option is to take a trip to Paris.

Would you be happy?

And if the answer to both of those questions is yes, then the decision probably matters a little bit less than you think.

Often, the things that we're comparing have maybe more in common than they do differently.

And the risk of that worst-case scenario, that cab driver swindle or that...

bad as cargo are likely about equal in either place that you go to.