Simone Stolzoff

And so another situation where if this passes the only option test, if both options would be a source of happiness, if they were the only option that you had, maybe the decision matters a little bit less than you think.

Yeah.

I mean, everyone has their own way of doing it.

You know, I'm not saying that you necessarily have to flip a coin.

I'm just saying that you can make a choice quickly.

And the quicker you make that choice, the quicker you can start to convince yourself why you made the right choice and build the anticipation that is a great part of choosing to take a trip anywhere.

And so for people like me who are naturally ruminative and doubting, some of these heuristics can be helpful.

Well, there's actually an idea from a previous guest of the Liz Moody podcast that I think is really helpful here.

If you think about Evans and Burnett, the authors of Designing Your Life and their new book about meaning making, they teach this class called Designing Your Life at Stanford that's incredibly popular.

And one of the exercises they do is basically ask people, how many lives do you want to live?

If you could live as many lives as you want.

And they say that the average answer is something like nine.

And

On one hand, you can think, what a tragedy.

We only get to live one life where the majority of people want to live eight lives.

Or you can think about the other side, which is how liberating.

We are never going to be able to live all of those lives.

And so I am going to try and live this one life at

the best of my ability.

For a while, I was an international correspondent.