Simone Stolzoff

They've all come from someone who's willing to get to a point where they're not sure and keep going.

But when we're too addicted to certainty, when we have to grasp for certainty in all moments of our life, it keeps us from discovering the possibility that might lie on the other side of our discomfort.

So a basic example, we all have a friend who is in a relationship that they know is not working for them, but they would prefer the comfort of where they are as opposed to the discomfort of having to face the uncertainty of leaving.

or someone who's in a job that it might not be optimal.

They know that it's not the best fit for them, but they would rather the devil that you know.

And so when we are certain, it sort of closes our minds.

And when we are able to tolerate uncertainty, when we're able to open ourselves to those possibilities, we stay open to the world as it emerges.

Yeah.

So I opened the book with a story about a couple who's deciding whether or not they want to get divorced.

They've been together for 17 years.

They've been married for 10 and they're out having a drink at a bar in Manhattan.

And they decided to do something that I would characterize as crazy, but they right then and there say, okay,

We are going to do an experiment and we're going to call it the year of living dangerously.

And for a year, we're going to go our separate ways.

We're not going to talk to each other.

And then exactly a year from today, we'll come back to this bar and decide whether or not we want to stay together.

And it's a fascinating experiment.

It's one of those things that you might like think about in your mind, but like- Or see in like a movie.

Yeah, but you're like, this is nonfiction.

That's actually happened.