Simone Stolzoff

I'm sorry.

But this comes back to separating what you can and what you can't control.

What can you control?

You can try to make yourself indispensable at the company.

You can have a frank conversation with your manager about what success looks like and whether you're meeting expectations.

You can network and diversify the opportunities that are available to you if you were to get laid off

And sometimes block just lays off 40% of their employees and it has nothing to do with your individual performance.

Contingency plan, plan for different potential scenarios in your life and don't try to control something that you can't.

This is a decision that only you can make.

And the reason why it's probably hard for you is because you see the trade-offs of having kids and you see the trade-offs of not having kids.

And rather than thinking that if you just banged your head against the wall at the right angle, full clarity will emerge, ask yourself, what trade-offs am I most willing to accept?

Find one cause that you care about that makes the world into a version of the world that you actually want to live in.

Well, the problem isn't necessarily that this one individual can't single-handedly solve fascism.

The problem is their anxiety is paralyzing them from doing anything about it.

Go to therapy.

Try and find other people who might be struggling with something similar and find solidarity through the shared experience.

You're less alone than you think.

Amen.

Contingency plan.

Continue to date, put yourself out there, make your desires really explicit, tell your friends what you're looking for, and potentially explore ways that you might be able to have a kid if that is very important to you as well.