Simone Stolzoff

opt for the sort of wishful thinking line of the spectrum where you arrive 45 minutes before your flight and think everything is going to be fine.

So gather information that you can, plan for different contingencies, and then ultimately you have to be comfortable with not knowing.

Yeah, a line that I like to think about a lot is that action absorbs anxiety.

And often when we're gathering more information, it can be useful to a point.

But beyond that point, it often just fuels our anxiety.

That's why we live in this information age.

And yet access to more information has not necessarily made us any wiser or less anxious.

You can pour gasoline on the fire of your anxiety.

by continuing to research, by continuing to click through articles.

I'm a new parent, and I think about this all the time in relation to parenting.

You can read endless things about anything on the internet about what might be happening with your kid, but at a certain point, that is getting in the way of you actually being present with your kid and being able to be responsive in the moment.

We have to be willing to live with a kind of uncertainty that none of us likes.

The first thing I always say is to find your anchors.

So research shows that when we are certain about some aspects of our life, it makes it easier to hold uncertainty in others.

I think about this in relation to time management all the time.

If you know, for example, that you're going to

exercise at a certain moment in the day, or if you have a bedtime at a certain time, it'll make it easier to hold some of the more amorphous uncertainty throughout your day.

So for you, your anchors might be something like your values or where you know you want to live or who you know you want to be with or where you want to spend your time.

Those anchors can be the boulders amidst all the changing winds around you.

The second thing I'd say is to try to separate what you can and can't control.