Simone Stolzoff

And Bill says, you know, Bill is an oncology doctor, so he has a lot of experience dealing with people at the end of their lives.

And he said, you know, Emily, the version of yourself that will deal with that tragic event if or when it happens will be born into existence in that moment.

And that version of you will have more context, more information, and will be better equipped to deal than you are today.

You have to trust in your future self to solve your future problems.

Now, obviously, in a case of Emily's life, the stakes are incredibly high.

She's dealing with her mom.

A little bit worse than the dinner on Thursday.

But I think the wisdom still applies.

And so often, when faced with uncertainty, we have this natural tendency to rush out and meet our suffering.

And say, oh, if my mom dies, I'm not sure what I'm going to do.

I'm so worried.

And to really rush out to meet that moment.

And in Emily's case, her mom ended up recovering.

And she's so grateful that she didn't spend too much time in that dark place worrying about something that hasn't yet come to be.

I think in a more mundane, practical sense, when we are too rigid to our plans, it makes us less flexible and less adaptable.

And especially in a world that is rapidly changing or in a life that is incredibly busy, that has lots of variables in the air, if you're too fixed to your one specific way of doing things, it makes it very easy to really get thrown off kilter if something were to change.

And so I like the idea of having intentions, as you like to say, doing something three times a week makes it a habit.

Having a way of knowing what's important to you, but being flexible enough to change the scope or schedule if the week dictates you adapting.

Yeah, so the title, The Good Enough Job, is an allusion to this theory that was devised by this British pediatrician named Donald Winnicott.

And you might have heard of it.