Simone Stolzoff

No, no, no.

If you want to find a fact that is demonstrably true, look up the fact.

But it's made me worse at dealing with things that I can't look up.

And it can create expectation.

Imagine the difference between walking into a movie that you've watched the trailer, read all the reviews, done all the research versus walking in with a little less context.

There's more serendipity.

There's more surprise.

There's more mystery.

Same with restaurants.

I feel like we live with this epidemic where people are grasping for certainty everywhere they look.

And uncertainty, although it can be threatening, it can be a source of fear, is also where the texture of life comes from.

Yeah, I think it's an important part of life to have certainty and uncertainty.

So one of the biggest pieces of advice I give for people when they're in an uncertain situation is to find what I call your certainty anchors.

What are the things in your life that you are certain about?

When we are certain about some things, it makes it easier to hold uncertainty in other ways.

So say you're looking for a new job.

if you know where you wanna live, if you know your commitment to investing in your relationship in a certain way, if you know the sort of type of role that you wanna work in, it makes it easier to hold the uncertainty of exactly what job you're gonna get.

If you're feeling very uncertain about the state of the world, maybe there are things in your life that can be rituals that are more regular that make you feel more grounded in the midst of this uncertainty that you're feeling.

I'll give one practical example.

My grandmother passed away last week.