Simone Stolzoff

knee-jerk reaction is a good little proxy for our own sort of optimism or pessimism when it comes to these situations.

But my favorite part of the whole story was their couples therapist was Esther Perel, like one of the most- Yeah, I was like, how did they get in with her?

You're like, this is definitely fiction now.

Well, it was kind of before Esther was like Esther Perel.

You know, this was like early 2000s in New York.

And Esther said something that really stuck with me, which is that trust is an active engagement with the unknown, especially when it comes to something like

starting a relationship or proposing or taking a new job, you're never going to know for certain exactly how it's going to turn out.

When it comes to anything that happens in the future, certainty is a fallacy.

What we need to do as individuals is to be able to trust things without knowing exactly how they're going to turn out.

Faith, call it trust.

But I think that skill of being able to get to a point where you don't know and to persist is the benefit of developing uncertainty tolerance.

It allows you to keep going in spite of not being sure.

Yeah, it's liberating.

You know, this researcher, Phil Tetlock, is famous for taking predictions from the smartest people in the world.

So economists, politicians, journalists.

And the truth is they are so often wrong.

And yet we turn on the TV and it says, this is when the market's going to crash.

This is who's going to win the election.

This is who's going to win the game.

And we discount the fact that everyone is sort of making their best guess