Simone Stolzoff

And it felt like a loss.

But as a person, I wanted to be someone of my word.

And I said yes to the design firm.

And so attaching it to my identity, the way I self-justified it to myself was, I said yes to this job.

I want to be a person that is good on his word.

And so therefore, I'm going to do this.

And if I make this grave mistake, then I can course correct in the future.

And I think that is an empowering mentality when it comes to these crossroads in our lives or these moments of uncertainty.

How can you be the person that you want to be regardless of the outcome?

Yeah, so we talked a little bit about how to handle acute uncertainty.

That's like a question like, will I pass the bar or will I get this job that I want?

Thinking about things like separating what you can and can't control, trying to contingency plan for different outcomes, and then ultimately doing what you can to regulate your body so that you can accept whatever decision you get.

But I think there's also this realm of uncertainty that is sort of ambient uncertainty of the world that we're living in right now.

And one of the biggest things that I think can help us in these moments of ambient uncertainty is to think about ways in which you can trust in your future self to be able to handle some of your future problems.

So I have this friend named Emily who is a therapist.

She's like a therapist to the stars.

She works with entrepreneurs and people navigating uncertainty and change.

But when she was in her early 20s, her mom was given a potentially terminal diagnosis.

And so for weeks, Emily was by her side in the hospital and really struggling on this sort of roller coaster of anticipatory grief and fear.

And one day, a family friend of hers named Bill, who's an oncology doctor, so has a lot of experience dealing with people end of life,