Sita Walker

I went to bed one night and I said, I'm not doing it.

And

I fell asleep and then when I woke up in the morning, I felt really good.

I felt like that was me.

I'd made a choice on my own.

It just felt like a tiny freedom and then I wanted more of that really.

Oh.

It was very, very, very difficult to tell them that because they have such a strong marriage themselves and because obviously Baha'is believe in marriage.

They knew that things were not good.

But I called them and I told them, look, we've decided to separate.

And I was really struggling.

I was at home.

The kids were at school but I decided, you know, I'm not going to go to work that day because I just couldn't get myself out of the bed because...

I was, for the first time in my life, having to organise everything by myself.

I wanted to change my name back.

I needed to organise the Medicare.

I needed to have my separate bank account.

I needed to rent a house.

I needed to... All of these things that I'd never done because I basically went from my father's house to my husband's house and I'd always had help in that way.

So I called my mum and dad up in tears and I said, please just come.