Stephan Speaks

You know, people get distracted, they forget what they want to say, the other person gets defensive, they're listening to a rebuttal not to understand. But when there's a letter involved, it gives you time to get everything out. You can evaluate your tone, leave no stone unturned.

You know, people get distracted, they forget what they want to say, the other person gets defensive, they're listening to a rebuttal not to understand. But when there's a letter involved, it gives you time to get everything out. You can evaluate your tone, leave no stone unturned.

And now they have an opportunity to process it on their time to really take it in and then you guys can come together and discuss the letter. And now it's so much easier to stay on point and get everything covered. If we've done that and they're still unwilling or there's still no progress, it's time to go.

And now they have an opportunity to process it on their time to really take it in and then you guys can come together and discuss the letter. And now it's so much easier to stay on point and get everything covered. If we've done that and they're still unwilling or there's still no progress, it's time to go.

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So, I 100% agree with you like if we're trying to learn or grow it needs to be for the benefit of who we are and just whoever we deal with. So, it's almost like if I was a bad communicator in this relationship I shouldn't learn to better communicate for that person I need to better communicate for whoever I'm going to be with.

So, I 100% agree with you like if we're trying to learn or grow it needs to be for the benefit of who we are and just whoever we deal with. So, it's almost like if I was a bad communicator in this relationship I shouldn't learn to better communicate for that person I need to better communicate for whoever I'm going to be with.

If you can't see it in that light then maybe you're looking at the wrong thing. My thing is this I think It all depends on what the details of the situation was. What led to the breakup? What were you overlooking? What was missing? Are these fixable issues? Because a lot of people are trying to win back someone where the issues are not resolved. So, it's like what's the point of going back?

If you can't see it in that light then maybe you're looking at the wrong thing. My thing is this I think It all depends on what the details of the situation was. What led to the breakup? What were you overlooking? What was missing? Are these fixable issues? Because a lot of people are trying to win back someone where the issues are not resolved. So, it's like what's the point of going back?

We're just going to go in the same cycle all over again. They're letting this idea of I miss them, I don't want to be without them blind them from the fact that you two did not get along well. Or you two don't want the same things. Or you two just whatever it is maybe there's a lack of sexual satisfaction. I don't know why I felt the need to mention that, but that's what happens a lot of times.

We're just going to go in the same cycle all over again. They're letting this idea of I miss them, I don't want to be without them blind them from the fact that you two did not get along well. Or you two don't want the same things. Or you two just whatever it is maybe there's a lack of sexual satisfaction. I don't know why I felt the need to mention that, but that's what happens a lot of times.

You have to stay focused on what led to the end and can this be corrected? If it can cool, but as you mentioned correcting it does not guarantee you they're coming back. And even if they will come back you don't know when. They may need... So, you may have figured yourself out in six months, they might need a year.

You have to stay focused on what led to the end and can this be corrected? If it can cool, but as you mentioned correcting it does not guarantee you they're coming back. And even if they will come back you don't know when. They may need... So, you may have figured yourself out in six months, they might need a year.

And I would argue if you guys are truly meant for each other and they needed a year, you need a year too. You're just overlooking some things and you're rushing the process because you want to get back to them. I've never found a situation where it was truly only one person who had problems and the other person was squeaky clean. No, no, no, you thought you were.

And I would argue if you guys are truly meant for each other and they needed a year, you need a year too. You're just overlooking some things and you're rushing the process because you want to get back to them. I've never found a situation where it was truly only one person who had problems and the other person was squeaky clean. No, no, no, you thought you were.

But you have some stuff too you needed to correct. Of course. So, I think we have to be honest with ourselves and just keep striving to be better. And rather than focus on winning them back just become the best you because if you do and there's a true connection there the opportunity will present itself again and you too will be able to make something of it.

But you have some stuff too you needed to correct. Of course. So, I think we have to be honest with ourselves and just keep striving to be better. And rather than focus on winning them back just become the best you because if you do and there's a true connection there the opportunity will present itself again and you too will be able to make something of it.

The first thing is to ask yourself again, why was I even there? Why am I holding on to this individual? Again, I think sometimes we get so blinded by just the experience or our desire to have this person for whatever reason that we overlook what was really missing or why this could not work anyway.

The first thing is to ask yourself again, why was I even there? Why am I holding on to this individual? Again, I think sometimes we get so blinded by just the experience or our desire to have this person for whatever reason that we overlook what was really missing or why this could not work anyway.