Stephan Speaks
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257 appearances
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2 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard May 2025
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Express yourself, get everything off your chest because you don't need anything to linger and you questioning well, what if I did this different? No, speak your full piece and now you can say all right, I did what I had to do, it is what it is, I move forward. And I mean, it makes it easier. It may not make it 100%, you know, not an issue whatsoever, but it's going to be easier.
And I'll say also for me that's why like, My relationship with God is so important because that's where I find my peace in dealing with a situation that doesn't work out the way I want to. I always tell myself okay, if this isn't working out God has something better for me, you know.
If this is happening right now there's a purpose because I know if I followed his guidance throughout this process there's no need for me to question why is this the current outcome. There is a reason for this and I've been through these things enough times to see as you mentioned, the reward is going to come.
It may come next week, it may come years from now, it will come and I'll be able to see how it all connected.
Most breakups, if not all, are a blessing in disguise. We just can't see where the blessing is in that moment. Do you believe that there's right person, wrong time? Absolutely. It's not as simple as, oh, we love each other, everything's supposed to work perfectly. Love is one thing, relationship is another.
Completely unfair. When she goes on that date or she's in that relationship and things go wrong, she may leave out parts of what she did to contribute to the problem. I think people are not having success in dating because people are not accepting who they are first. I like that. There are things about us we know, but society makes us feel shamed about it. How do you communicate with someone
who doesn't like to communicate? My initial response is going to be, you don't communicate with them at all. You let them go. If we're having issues with discussing our relationship problems, things that need to be addressed, if we can't discuss it, how can we fix it? We base our perceptions of the opposite sex on what I call the desirables.
I always say the way to determine how serious someone is about you the number one health and wellness podcast. Jay Shetty.
Thank you for having me, man. Glad to be back.
Yeah, exactly.
Absolutely, man. Always my pleasure.
I think one of the biggest issues we have in this world right now is we are refusing to accept the differences between the average man and the average woman. Now, I say the average man, average woman because I understand there are exceptions to every rule, nothing applies 100%. However, we have very distinct differences that if we reject we're going to have conflict in relationships.
So, one that comes to mind and I don't know, this is one I was recently talking about There's this push that people want to say women want sex as much as men, right? They want it just as much. That's an absolute lie, okay. As far as I'm concerned that's simply not true. Now, I once was at a conference... Well, not a conference. I was once flown into a...
it was one of those dating sites they had they brought a few experts in they had this presentation and there was a scientist who brought out this study that showed that quote unquote women want sex as much as men. And I told her I said I think there's something wrong here. I think what the study is doing is conflating intimacy with sex. And the reality is that women want intimacy, okay.
I always say if you had door number one, door number two. Door number one is just straight sex. Door number two is hugs, kisses, intimacy, all that. The majority of women are choosing door number two, the majority of men are choosing door number one.
The reason why this is so important to accept and this is just one example of the built-in differences of who we are that we've got to learn to just accept it. Is because now if a man gets with a woman being told we are the same, we want sex the same way, he does not understand how to speak to her in a way that makes her sexually receptive to him.
He thinks oh, if we just like sex we like sex if you're horny you're horny that's it and the story. And no, for the majority of women there is a mental and emotional component you have to be aware of. If she is in the wrong place, if she's overly stressed, if she's overwhelmed this can take away all her desire or willingness to engage sexually.
So, by feeding this narrative that we are the same in all these ways we are not allowing ourselves to learn the differences, respect the differences and speak to those differences which will then allow us to have more harmony in relationships.
And I feel that if we could do that and really respect the other genders position on things and of course, you don't go in just assuming all these generalized things apply to each person. but they can be your basic foundation and then you learn that individual and understand okay, well with her maybe she does want sex more than I do, right.
Or with this one maybe she wants a little bit more of this. You are open and you are flexible but I think if people took that approach they would have better dating experiences, better relationships, much better marriages, all right.
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