Stephan Speaks

what you'll also find is and I'm sure there's probably a study on it where if they broke up with you... You ever see a situation it happens on TV a lot where the person could be like okay, I'm going to break up with my partner. They're planning on it they've been practicing in their head, right.

what you'll also find is and I'm sure there's probably a study on it where if they broke up with you... You ever see a situation it happens on TV a lot where the person could be like okay, I'm going to break up with my partner. They're planning on it they've been practicing in their head, right.

It took them a couple of weeks to muster up the strength they're about to do it and then the partner breaks up with them. Now it's oh my gosh, I got to get them back. So, it's like you just forgot this whole time that was your plan.

It took them a couple of weeks to muster up the strength they're about to do it and then the partner breaks up with them. Now it's oh my gosh, I got to get them back. So, it's like you just forgot this whole time that was your plan.

They just gave you the pass to do it but now because we don't like to be the one being let go of now we're fighting hard to get it back.

They just gave you the pass to do it but now because we don't like to be the one being let go of now we're fighting hard to get it back.

So, we have to really not fall into these little traps that happen to us as human beings our brains is playing tricks on us or something where we confuse these emotions for oh my gosh, I must really love them. Or even like you said you go into that detox and because you miss... I always tell people no matter how bad the relationship was there's always good moments.

So, we have to really not fall into these little traps that happen to us as human beings our brains is playing tricks on us or something where we confuse these emotions for oh my gosh, I must really love them. Or even like you said you go into that detox and because you miss... I always tell people no matter how bad the relationship was there's always good moments.

So, if you're trying to break free you can't just let your brain focus on the good moments. You have to remind yourself why this doesn't work. But if you keep focusing on the good you start to make yourself think oh, because I missed this good moment I must miss them. And there's this quote that says sometimes you're not missing the person you're missing the feeling.

So, if you're trying to break free you can't just let your brain focus on the good moments. You have to remind yourself why this doesn't work. But if you keep focusing on the good you start to make yourself think oh, because I missed this good moment I must miss them. And there's this quote that says sometimes you're not missing the person you're missing the feeling.

So, you've got to be able to differentiate those two things. So, getting back to how we get over these breakups is recognizing why were we really there to begin with? You know, could this actually work? The next thing is you know, I'm a huge believer that a lot of times a breakup is a blessing in disguise.

So, you've got to be able to differentiate those two things. So, getting back to how we get over these breakups is recognizing why were we really there to begin with? You know, could this actually work? The next thing is you know, I'm a huge believer that a lot of times a breakup is a blessing in disguise.

Even if there is a chance that you two can work together or this is the one for you, you may have needed this time to reevaluate and get things in order. Something is obviously wrong. Even if you... It may be something as deep as... Because I've seen situations where everything was going amazingly well on the surface. and the person broke up with them. Let's say the woman lets go of the man.

Even if there is a chance that you two can work together or this is the one for you, you may have needed this time to reevaluate and get things in order. Something is obviously wrong. Even if you... It may be something as deep as... Because I've seen situations where everything was going amazingly well on the surface. and the person broke up with them. Let's say the woman lets go of the man.

So, to the man that's really confusing. But what it was is that that woman she had not healed from her past relationships and this relationship being so good was scaring her. And what happens is the better you are the scarier it becomes for her. She's looking for something to be wrong she has to validate her fear somehow.

So, to the man that's really confusing. But what it was is that that woman she had not healed from her past relationships and this relationship being so good was scaring her. And what happens is the better you are the scarier it becomes for her. She's looking for something to be wrong she has to validate her fear somehow.

When she can't find it she'll either sabotage the relationship or she'll run from it. So, to that man it may seem like this is so unfair which yeah, it sucks but if this woman didn't break up with you now you were inevitably going to face this same ending but at a worse time, all right.

When she can't find it she'll either sabotage the relationship or she'll run from it. So, to that man it may seem like this is so unfair which yeah, it sucks but if this woman didn't break up with you now you were inevitably going to face this same ending but at a worse time, all right.

This is still best that it's happening now at least if she can go do what she needs to do there's a chance for this to come back around later. But it's hard for us to see it in the moment. So, I think just really we also have to focus on our healing. Whenever a breakup happens The mistake we make is that we think it's about healing from the breakup.

This is still best that it's happening now at least if she can go do what she needs to do there's a chance for this to come back around later. But it's hard for us to see it in the moment. So, I think just really we also have to focus on our healing. Whenever a breakup happens The mistake we make is that we think it's about healing from the breakup.