Stephan Speaks

No, it's healing from everything you've been through. You've probably been sleeping under the rug your childhood trauma for years. Maybe the last two, three relationships whatever it is. So, and not healing from those things is contributing to your struggle to get past this breakup. and contributing to why you even chose this person to begin with.

No, it's healing from everything you've been through. You've probably been sleeping under the rug your childhood trauma for years. Maybe the last two, three relationships whatever it is. So, and not healing from those things is contributing to your struggle to get past this breakup. and contributing to why you even chose this person to begin with.

I'm a huge believer that if you haven't healed you are 90% likely to choose the wrong person.

I'm a huge believer that if you haven't healed you are 90% likely to choose the wrong person.

It's just too difficult to pick that person that you truly love and can truly love you and accept that level of vulnerability when you have still not resolved your past traumas and past hurts.

It's just too difficult to pick that person that you truly love and can truly love you and accept that level of vulnerability when you have still not resolved your past traumas and past hurts.

So, to me that's the next big thing is just focus on your healing process because in that process you will also be able to see more clearly if this is really for you or not. Like, walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. You can't see straight no matter how hard you try. But healing will clear up your vision really, really fast.

So, to me that's the next big thing is just focus on your healing process because in that process you will also be able to see more clearly if this is really for you or not. Like, walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. You can't see straight no matter how hard you try. But healing will clear up your vision really, really fast.

And now it'll be like oh, wait a minute I didn't belong there.

And now it'll be like oh, wait a minute I didn't belong there.

You know, thank God the broke breakup happened. You know, now I'm in a better place I move forward. So, to me I think and I would say in addition to those things is just have an accountability partner.

You know, thank God the broke breakup happened. You know, now I'm in a better place I move forward. So, to me I think and I would say in addition to those things is just have an accountability partner.

Whether that's friend, coach, therapist, someone that can help keep you in check, help remind you what you need to do, someone that you know you have to talk to and update what's going on so that you feel like okay, I don't want to come back to them saying I'm doing the same thing over and over again. It doesn't guarantee success, but it helps. It helps move the needle some.

Whether that's friend, coach, therapist, someone that can help keep you in check, help remind you what you need to do, someone that you know you have to talk to and update what's going on so that you feel like okay, I don't want to come back to them saying I'm doing the same thing over and over again. It doesn't guarantee success, but it helps. It helps move the needle some.

So, I would highly encourage that.

So, I would highly encourage that.

You need the peace of knowing I did what I needed to do.

You need the peace of knowing I did what I needed to do.

Because anytime you feel like, well, I could have done this, but I could have done... That leaves the door open for doubt. Do it all. Exactly. And that's why I'm such a big believer in... There's people who say, well, once they're done, they're done. They'll just move on. And I'm like, no, no, no.

Because anytime you feel like, well, I could have done this, but I could have done... That leaves the door open for doubt. Do it all. Exactly. And that's why I'm such a big believer in... There's people who say, well, once they're done, they're done. They'll just move on. And I'm like, no, no, no.