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Chapter 1: How do societal narratives affect our dating perceptions?
I think that's why we struggle so much because if someone's saying something, like if you were saying to me like, hey Jay, like, you know, I don't like the way that your friends speak to me when they're around. If I hear that, I start defending my friends because I'm like, what are you talking about? My friends are amazing. They're the best. They're the greatest.
Now I've invalidated you to validate myself because we think validation means I invalidate you, I validate myself. Or if I validate you, then I'm invalidating myself. Maturity is, oh, I could validate you and also stand true to who I am. That's a healed individual. And so I can agree with you and I can also share my perspective.
But I find that if we're looking for that off the bat, don't you feel like that portion of people is really small?
It is. But this is the unfortunate, harsh reality. because that portion is so small and because we overlook those types of issues, well, that's why we have so much unhealthy relationships. That's why we have such a high divorce rate. And I always tell people, people love to harbor on the divorce rate as an argument not to get married.
And I'm like, hold up, if we could quantify the breakup rate, it would probably make the divorce rate look like child's play, all right. People break up way more and so much trauma, so much hurt So, the reality is that yes, if we took this approach that said someone needs to be emotionally mature before we can enter in a relationship with them, relationships will plummet.
There will be a lot less relationships. However, two things would happen from that. There would be more healthy relationships and people would start to realize this is an unacceptable trait that they're carrying with them.
If people are experiencing where they can be dismissive, they cannot learn to be emotionally in tune and mature and intelligent enough to how to handle someone's feelings and concerns. Well, they will never understand the need to fix that, all right. And it's the same, it's that same issue like literally I was just coaching a married couple who they're going through it right now.
And one of the big issues is they're both very dismissive of each other when they're expressing their concerns, all right. So, it's like yeah, you can look past this if you want but you're going to pay a price. Is that price worth it? And most do not survive that. At some point you're going to have to learn it anyway, right. So, I just think yeah, I think it'd be best and I understand.
I'm speaking idealistically, realistically most people are going to overlook this issue, most people are going to give a pass, right. But I think even if you're going to give a pass to a certain extent it needs to be discussed, it needs to be understood. And to your point I love that you said because I literally just did a video on my men's channel about
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Chapter 2: What are the key differences between men and women in relationships?
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